"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Regarding a last date/Wanna initiate an LTR (need help)

RoadKing_Rabbit

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How do I be less invested? I think I'm more relaxed now, not rly thinking about it.
Other than not acquiescing to each tailored request to do things 'correctly,' you keep doing what you've BEEN doing. Talking to other girls. You've said it yourself. If you're not committing, then no LTR. It has to be YOU that determines when someone gets that spot. YOU must take your pick. If you aren't actually crazy over a lady or know what that feels like while still maintaining your cool, keep meeting women until you find one like that.

Don't pick some lady because she says you should. Or because internet/youtube 'gods' state that you must find a virgin or this that and the third. Do YOU even LIKE her? Something seems 'off' about her family? You have to meet weird criteria to date/meetup? No way. You must believe you are BETTER than that. And if you aren't, you must become better than that!

You're already working on it. If she doesn't align with YOUR program, she doesn't qualify. If she doesn't like you studying hard, she doesn't qualify. If you don't get a st1ffy by seeing her and then getting closer to her, she doesn't qualify. If she doesn't do things that you'd like your ideal woman to do? SHE DOESN'T qualify. Not "Oh, I'm so lucky a woman went out with me" or "She's really hot, but she's really nice" or "she says I need to be a born again christian, but she keeps going out with me" or "She complains every time I do something fun she doesn't enjoy, but she's perfect." YOU determine if she qualifies. Not because she's a woman, has a pulse and actually talks to you and goes out with you. If your qualification process is "I asked her out and she said yes! Finally met her!" that's pathetic and if you don't realize it is, you've got to change that.

Getting it? You're the one picking the lady! Not me. Not the most BA alpha guru according to you. Do you think this giga chad guru dude fecks HB9s with YOUR tally whacker? No? Then why should you pick someone 'just because?' This most previous one you were asking "since she's a virgin, she must be valuable" told me all I needed to hear. If she was really something that special, it would be because you found her to be so. If you have to try and find a reason like 'Well she's HB9' or 'She really likes the same things' or 'she's perfect in bed' (I've done that one....) then guess what? SHE DOESN'T QUALIFY! If you feel like "well, I never get the one I pick" stop going out with ones you DON'T pick. You shouldn't have to justify to yourself or ANYONE ELSE why you're with her! If you want her, you're with her. End of!

Do you even know what you like or what you want in a girl? You should be able to answer that. Particularly, I'm partial to blondes or blue eyes. Must have T or A in spades. Just something to think about. She doesn't complain about biker events and comes along (not everytime) and I am 1000% sure that the phrase "Now that we're married, you can ditch that silly bike." No nagging, communicates clearly, she checks in on me in a very different way and if she isn't listening, I tell her to knock it off and she says 'yes sir.' Not because I'm a jerk or a hole, but because I need to focus, or she is distracting me from a task for US. If you can't tell a woman how it is because you're afraid she's going to cut you off from 'snuggle time' guess what? Please get this right.

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SHE DOESN'T QUALIFY!!!!!!!!!
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Divorced w 3

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This situation is a really good reason to recommend reading Anti-Dump’s Machine. It’s built for exactly this reason. Really can’t recommend it enough.
 
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