"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Regaining power in a relationship.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Trust me. I started to think well whatever ill just use her for ass. But you know what? No matter what u think now or believe, as long as u keep maintaining contact for her and talkin to her and doin things with her she will never get out ur mind, and u know u had feelings for her, and ur just setting urself up for another let down in the future so fck the ass. I mean listen to what ur saying, she is getting u hooked on that pssy again YOU'RE ALREADY THINKING ABOUT A "NEXT TIME" AND FCKING IT. thats exactly what she wants... And little by little u will get more into her and u know she aint the one for u. so my advice cut it off right now. there are millions out there u had ur fun i think u should move on. doesnt matter if u think ur gettin some for free while u can be workin on other things cus she'll pull u back in. so yeh beware this ho......i know you wont take my advice or anyone elses's... I didnt.. But anyways my son, no matter how simple and short LMS advice might be with the
take it to the heart LoL.JustDoItAlways
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I think it is a good example of how to lose power, then act even more AFC and lose even more power.
But then, when the guy finally gets his head on straight and starts doing the right DJ thing, he regains the power back.
However, I don't think you have fully got your head on straight yet itishe. You'll need to make to a concerted effort to stay straight before she heads back to school or you will fall back into your old ways.
For example, make sure you do something with that other girl soon and when the old flame hears about it (not from you of course, let the gossip crowd you hang out with do the work), it will drive her insane and she will be jumping your bones as much as she can before she heads back to school.
My final point is that LDRs suck. There is too little sex in an LDR to make it all worthwhile. Chicks with low sex drives like LDRs just for that reason. At least 50% of the time, the girl is just cheating on you with a local anyway. LDRs are a waste of time, effort and money.
I have no feelings for her now. I see her for what she is. She is no where as attractive as I thought her decent ass was when I was going out with her.
I now know from experience LDR's are the biggest waste of time.
I DO NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER!
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P.S. While having making out, having foreplay, sex, whatever be sure to try the "smell technique". The one where you smell her with a long light intake and slowly exhale warm air all over the spot you just sniffed. I heard her say, "****" and moan a bunch of times.
Might just be me, but I think she's done with her little boytoy from Alaska?
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Being a jerk/indifferent to a woman is like being a HB10 to us... it just ****ing reels us in like fish,.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She was asking a buddy of mine if I liked her again or if I only wanted a peice of ass. He said, "I don't know, probably just a peice of ass" to which she replied, "I'm cool with that".
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You have a lot of opportunities to meet great women man. You can do whatever you want. If you dont want to meet another woman then you dont have to either. Im sure you can handle whatever happens.itishe said:
I may consider a relationship with her again seeing as I won't have to wait 5 months this time around. We'll see what happens.
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When you say you are going to have a relationship with her - you just mean sex, right? You do NOT have relationships with hors!!!itishe said:****ed her a few more times, even this morning. I missed school
She was asking a buddy of mine if I liked her again or if I only wanted a peice of ass. He said, "I don't know, probably just a peice of ass" to which she replied, "I'm cool with that".
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ever after she was getting ready to have sex with me while on the phone with this guy she liked in Alaska, I know I can't trust her. She also did some bull**** like, "oh I don't know if we should make such an agreement, I mean I don't want to do stuff with other guys, but I think we'll be more heartbroken if either of us find someone new". Sounds like some bull**** to keep me around while she can bang another dude.
Tell her I don't trust her, and if she asks why, I'll bring up past incidents. If she did that to one guy, what makes her ex so special? Not to mention her best friend in college goes around saying she loves her boyfriend back in Canada, but all the while tries to hook up with a coke head while in school.
May raise her interest and make her not want to touch other guys, or backfire and make me look insecure. Don't care really.
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Broke agreement off, she was curious why, I simply told her we didn't need the agreement.
I'm also getting very sick of her calling every damn day and demanding I do the same, so I texted her after talking to her before I went to bed. I told her, "Let's take a break from talking for a while. I think it will make time go faster, etc. Good night and I miss you".
She replies with, "Sounds Spectacular"
I say, "...Don't you agree?"
She says, "No, I do. Talk to you in a while. Well a long while. I miss you too. Goodnight"
I finally say, "i'm glad you agree, it's hard enough without you here so I'm willing to try anything to make it better" (didn't want to make her feel bad, I was very curious what the **** was going on when a chick pulled this once).