"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Refocusing my life

itishe

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Being a longtime member of this forum I've read my fair share of the great, good, and the bad. I've read the golden advice of POOK, LMS, etc. and the main thing I get from this forum is this.
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If you found this forum, you're probably trying to get girls. If you're trying to get girls you probably have no focus in life. With no focus and no life you seem desperate and girls are repelled. Find your passion in life and soon enough women will flock to you and your satisfied personality.
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Somedays I think I lost my focus in life. I hang out with my friends, I have a hobby (poker), and I play instruments (I used to practice more which I need to get back into) and I have a girlfriend. I almost feel like the guy who married, has 2 kids, a two stall garage and a stable 50k a year job. I feel too complacent, I'm not doing what I really want to do. Before dotting the fine line for college, I actually had grand plans of visiting Israel, seeing my Jewish heritage and experience a whole new flavor of life, and serve in the Israeli Defense Force.

(If you have any view about Israel please keep it to yourself, this isn't a political thread)

Each day that rolls by I kind of feel like I'm making a mistake by not going right now. Sure while going to college will make this plan richer as I plan to study Arabic and Hebrew while in school, I just feel empty. Not so much a depressive state but I don't feel fulfilled. I wanna hop on a plane, say screw it and give a life a roll there. I feel like men like Hemmingway (besides killing himself) really experienced life by traveling and doing what they wanted 100%.

Maybe just the whole moving on in life thing has got me down and I'm talking out of my ass, but any advice would be great.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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itishe, why don't you take a mini vacation to Israel or even better, take a study abroad course there. You can research the Israeli Defense Force and see if it is really for you. I don't think your girlfriend would mind that either.

These might be the spark you need to get out of your temporary depression.
 

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Im in the same boat as you mate
im starting to look at the fact that when your young and studying and what not, Girls, friends and everything materialistic isnt that big of a deal really in the scope of things. Im gonna start going out a lot more and doing a lot more fun sh1t as opposed to being stuck in watching films all the time

do what you want to do whilst your young
we get one chance
once our youth is gone, if you dont take your chance to do something amazing and make something of yourself
you will have 2 kids a 50k a year job and be married to a middle of the line woman
girls are just a little part of a much richer, deeper you
you do deserve a great girl
a great job
and a great life
be selfish and do what you want, this is your chance, your moment, SEIZE IT
or you will regret it for a lifetime!
 
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