"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Redeemed myself a bit today..

Kirro

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My friend & I hit the pool today. His intent was to test my progress & see if he can help me work on a few things. I gave him 3 hours & while he wasn't too jolly with me, he wasn't too disappointed either.

Upon our arrival there was this asian chick(she looks Thai or Korean). I had noticed her giving me strong eye contact in the past but I never really paid much attention. She's cute, nice boobs though no amazing & obviously...no ass :-(. She asked for my name(something they have to do) & the interaction went like this.

(Note - This chick is obviously American Asian meaning she's Asian on the outside but white on the inside)

Asian chick: *looks at me with interest* what's your name?
Me: [Insert my real name here]
Asian chick: *with enthusiasm* OH..I remember you...I've seen you here before.
Me: *with mild interest* oh? Well I'm here quite often.
Asian chick: Yeah, yeah I recognized your face but I had forgotten your name + you look different(For the past 3 weeks I've been walking around with facial hair, now I'm clean shaven & wearing a different hairstyle, many people say I look like a different person).
Me: Hmmmm. *walks away to change*

While swimming, I interacted with a lot of the lifeguards, getting tips & advice to improve my swimming because god knows I need it. When we got done with our 3 hour session I walked over to a female lifeguard. She's a thick white girl who looks cute but seems a bit tomboyish(have to wonder if she even likes guys).

Me: Excuse me lifeguard girl.
Her: *looks at me* yeah?
Me: I like the way your hair looks when you let it down, you should keep it that way.
Her: *slight smile* Thank you.
Me: You're welcome.

I didn't go in expecting to make conversation, I didn't even expect any result, I was compelled to comment on her hair so I commented. I could have been smoother but at least I got the guts to say something.

I went to another female lifeguard, pretty, slim, nice rack, nice ass.

Me: Lifeguard chick.
Her: Yeah*smiling*
Me: In all honesty, how's my swimming?
Her: You've improved a lot.(she commented while I was swimming that the first time she saw me, she thought I would drown...OUCH, alphaness BLOWN UP)
Me: I still have a ways to go don't I?
Her: Yeah but you got promise.
Me: Thanks, take it easy.
Her: You too. *slight smile*.

Didn't seem all that interested then again it was hard to tell what with her wearing shades. I don't really want to hit on the damn lifeguards though, win or lose I'll still lose as it would make things ultra awkward. I was more socializing, getting used to talking to females in different environments.

As I was leaving, Asian girl told my friend & I buy, calling out my name first then his. In my head I was like, she bothered to remember our names...who does that, furthermore what chick would even care? She's not bad looking, I would hit it however I don't want to attempt anything with someone who works there while I still go regularly. Sexual things cause clusterfvcks with relative ease.

My friend & I had a great conversation on the way home. I meet a friend on the train, he talked to some christian folk. & near my house I saw these two latinos skating. I introduced myself & began talking with them. I asked if they could teach me how to skate at another time, they agreed & we exchanged numbers.

I'm a work in progress but I'm confident I'll get there & pretty soon if I know myself(& I do).

Why am I posting this? Encouragement, every bit helps. You guys may be strangers but some of you really know what you're talking about & I trust you are great guys IRL. Also it works both ways, to those who are struggling, you can use me as encouragement to put yourself out there. That's the only way to go forward.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wilko

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Hey mate, as a training exercise it sounds like you really hit your mark! I can only guess at the details of the conversation you had with the Latinos but based on the number close (TIC), you can't have had any trouble drawing that out a bit longer. In fact, based on the shorter exchanges you posted, and your writing style, you sound like a guy I would actually want to talk to myself.
 

Kirro

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Oh sh!te. I forget to specify that the latinos were male, if they were female I would have said they were latinAs, my bad.

I wish I had number closed two latinas, I'd be in an even better mood right now.
 

Wilko

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Don't sweat it, I'm just yanking your chain about the Latino "number close".
 
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