"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Red Flags??

Long Duck Dong

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Alright, so lately i've been seeing this girl for a lil over a month now. She is new in town and i met her out on the streets one day. Now for about the first 3 weeks we were just friends because she has a boyfriend. But, he lives in another state. Then a few nights ago she has been sending me text messages telling me she likes me or wants to get more intimate with me and so on. Lets not forget the fact she has a boyfriend. So one day I met her at her house and we starting fooling around (You guys can figure that out yourself.) Anyways, we have been messing around now for a few days but her mom, sister, and brother don't know that. They think we're just friends and nothing else. Also when her boyfriend calls she lies to him saying im not with her but tells him that she loves him. It seems to me so far that we are just f$ck buddies. Finally, during the beginning of this summer her boyfriend is gonna send her money so she can fly back to live with him. But she tells her family it will probably only last about 2 months then she will move back here.

My guess is that in the end she will most likely stay with her boyfriend. So i'm wondering if i should have fun while im with her now? Or move on to a different girl? I'd like to know what you guys think about this situation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do both. See other girls. it will help you stay unattached to this one
 

Pimp-sicle

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Long Duck Dong said:
Alright, so lately i've been seeing this girl for a lil over a month now. She is new in town and i met her out on the streets one day. Now for about the first 3 weeks we were just friends because she has a boyfriend. But, he lives in another state. Then a few nights ago she has been sending me text messages telling me she likes me or wants to get more intimate with me and so on. Lets not forget the fact she has a boyfriend. So one day I met her at her house and we starting fooling around (You guys can figure that out yourself.) Anyways, we have been messing around now for a few days but her mom, sister, and brother don't know that. They think we're just friends and nothing else. Also when her boyfriend calls she lies to him saying im not with her but tells him that she loves him. It seems to me so far that we are just f$ck buddies. Finally, during the beginning of this summer her boyfriend is gonna send her money so she can fly back to live with him. But she tells her family it will probably only last about 2 months then she will move back here.

My guess is that in the end she will most likely stay with her boyfriend. So i'm wondering if i should have fun while im with her now? Or move on to a different girl? I'd like to know what you guys think about this situation.

If you get attached in this situation you'll be the chump boyfriend 6 months from now. She's CLEARLY showing you that she is incapable of being faithful and is a liar. If you choose to ignore this HUGE red flags and get emotionally involved with her, you'll be the one getting played big time.

You can't see her or even talk to her everyday, that's how you get attached. These are the types of w-hores you chit-chat with just so you can go fuvk 'em when you feel like busting a nut. If you recognize a girl for who she is, then you'll never get played. But if you try to make a ho' into a house wife your dust.

Bottom line: Lay off this chick for a bit and go out with your buddies. Fuvk her and leave, don't get all mushy with her and what not. And lastly, don't tell us we didn't tell you if you get attached. I can see you coming back in 2 months posting about how your in a relationship with this slvtbag and should've known better.



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Bible_Belt

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I love the user name. That movie character was a foreign exchange student whose only English was, 'What's happenin, hot stuff!"

Fuvk her and leave

Yep. I'd also suggest making a list of things you'd like to do to/with a girl but have not as of yet, and start getting those things done. She is temporary fun, nothing more.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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