Recurrent Difficulty Ejaculating During Sexual Intercourse

[Frank2500]

I've noticed for quite some time now that when I have sexual intercourse I really have a hard time ejaculating. In the beginning it seems to come across to the women I'm engaging in it with, that I may just be a very resistant guy but after several upon several poundings and poundings with no ejaculation I begin to sense from the look in their eyes that they seem to be wondering if there's anything wrong with me.


For instance, in order to continue protecting and preserving my health here in this red zone where I've been for the past five years, I've mainly been practising abstinence but so far, there's only been two women whom I've engaged in protected sexual intercourse with (after getting them tested of course). One of those two women, who I banged today, is a 43 year old woman. I remember just pounding and pounding without feeling in any way as if I had come anywhere close to sexual climax/ejaculation.



The whole process has often seemed so strenuous to me, leading me to often ask the women if they are satisfied. Well, they did and assured me they would have told me if they didn't but what good does it do if one partner feels satisfied while the other doesn't? And most of the time when I do ejaculate (like in today's case), it often comes after some other act of romantic/physical play, for instance rubbing it on the woman's behind, etc... the only one time I actually ejaculated naturally with one of those two women was in the doggy style position with the first one who had a ridiculously big ass. Are there any foods that I could perhaps eat that could help with this problem or could it be this is happening because I don't feel that physically attracted to the women in question?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Condoms don't help, even if they are a reality.

Women don't care exactly how you get off. Just take off the condom and jack off on her. She's happy if you're happy.

 

[speed dawg]

Are you getting a hard-on? If so, I'd say you're plenty attracted.

If you just can't feel anything, I'd take off the condom. What are the chances of getting an STD anyway? Very very low. I know some people will say this is stupid, but I'm not a fan of 'protected' sex. Maybe you just need to have more sex with less people. Just pull out. Keep the condoms for the one night stands and such. Or have her suck you off, using both hands, for maximum contact.

As for foods, almonds and oysters are the way to go. Healthy fats.

 

[Jariel]

I can't offer a definite solution here, but just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I have this same issue and it's so frustrating! Some people suggested it might be nervousness, but this happens even with long term girlfriends who I'm very relaxed with. It also takes me a long time when masturbating.

On the negative side, women do get a bit paranoid and take a bit of a hit to their ego. Afterall, a good woman wants to pleasure their man and see them orgasm.

On the positive side, you can just keep going and going and give them multiple orgasms.

One way I can ejaculate is to finish the job myself and *** over her. Another way is to go relentlessly fast and hard. It's like my grand finale, where I just give it everything I've got and I either ejaculate or I exhaust myself and have to give up.

Alternatively, try to go without sex or masturbating for as long as possible. I find this helps speed up the process when you finally get down.

 

[Frank2500]

Re:

Thanks so much to you all for your contributions. @Jariel: The thing about going on and on without ejaculating may be quite a turn on to women in the beginning but as time goes on and you have a second and let's say a third sexual encounter without ejaculating during intercourse, they'll then start to wonder what's wrong with you and next thing you know, they'lll very likely start gossiping to their friends saying "Hey, I've hooked up with a guy who doesn't ejaculate," which could be quite embarrassing to us the males concerned.


Regarding the issue of condom use, I just can't risk not wearing a condom at all because I'm in a red zone-in a Central African nation where I've been working at a temporary job for the past five years. I've so far had intercourse with just two women here (in the space of four years) and I made sure I got them tested for HIV/AIDS and even though their tests were negative, I still wore a condom to play it safe. To Jariel again, avoiding masturbating is something I'm working very hard at not doing as much as possible right now, though there are times when the urge is really so strong that it feels as if you're on fire. I have to admit that masturbation is something I used to do quite frequently and that could be part of the problem as well. When I do that, I have no problem ejaculating at all.