"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Recovering after a bad first impression??

Hockey Playa

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I'm In first year university, i met this girl in orientation week, when i was hammered out of my mind. It was one of those nights where mostly everythings a blur. So all i remember is her name basically and that she was a blonde. Shes about a hb7-7.5, which i usually can wheel no problem. But due to my obnoxious behaviour, she blew me off..Well the next couple of weeks, i kept bumping into her sober, and thought i could redeem myself, but she was having none of it. She actually started hitting up some uglier guy in my building..it turns out she has alot of friends on my floor, and is over at my building all the time..Since i saw that she was not feeling me due to my bad first impression, i decided to pay her no attention at all, and did my own thing when she was over. Well now 6 months later, i think she finally warmed up to me. Shes alot more flirty, with the fake play fighting (kino). Im not sure how to approach this. Its possible that she just is putting me in the LJBF zone, or maybe my lack of interest in her, has made up for my horrible first impression? sound likely?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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musclyjerk

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Not worth the effort.

She probably isn't interested in knowing anything other than 'Does he still like me?' since you have displayed a lack of interest.

She blew you off anyway - why are you still interested in her 6 months later!

The Muscly Jerk
 

Cruise

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I'm with Beef Jerky on this one... :trouble:

Matter of fact, you mentioned she was put off by your "lack of interest"... you just never stated whether you were interested or not.

If you are, even if she supposedly put you in the LJBF category, it doesn't mean she's off-limits. Just up to you whether or not you step to the plate and take charge.

If you're not interested in her though, then this post was a waste of time.
 

Hockey Playa

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My interest level, would be about 50/50, i would definately do **** with her, maybe date her, but if i didnt i wouldnt lose any sleep over it, i was just curious if any of you had successfully turned around a bad first impression??
 

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Hockey Playa said:
I'm In first year university, i met this girl in orientation week, when i was hammered out of my mind. It was one of those nights where mostly everythings a blur. So all i remember is her name basically and that she was a blonde. Shes about a hb7-7.5, which i usually can wheel no problem. But due to my obnoxious behaviour, she blew me off..Well the next couple of weeks, i kept bumping into her sober, and thought i could redeem myself, but she was having none of it. She actually started hitting up some uglier guy in my building..it turns out she has alot of friends on my floor, and is over at my building all the time..Since i saw that she was not feeling me due to my bad first impression, i decided to pay her no attention at all, and did my own thing when she was over. Well now 6 months later, i think she finally warmed up to me. Shes alot more flirty, with the fake play fighting (kino). Im not sure how to approach this. Its possible that she just is putting me in the LJBF zone, or maybe my lack of interest in her, has made up for my horrible first impression? sound likely?
6 months my fuc*ing god man!

Sort it out i mean really jesus H fu**ing christ dude.

one women a HB 7 also who is seeing other guys in front of you and you still want it.

Man its ONE women, open your eyes there are plenty more out there.

Putting you in LJBF zone?
How the hell can she do that? oh yes you let her or your letting her.

How to get out of LJBF, well its easy, you tell her:

Hey ........... i like flirting and all that stuff, hey who does'nt but i think its time we stepped it up a little :D

Or, hey............ lets go out, me, you! maybe if your good enough i may even date you :D

Or. Hi, .............. i have noticed you seem a little more forward latley, hey i like that, you know if you find me hot, i will totally understand.

E.t.c its called escalation, LJBF stage for crying out loud and 6 months too, man you need a kick in the nuts to show you have a pair.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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