"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Reconciliation with a middle school ex

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Hey guys, I'm going to try to make this short and sweet.

I had a crush on this girl in middle school, this is by far the only girl till this day that I've had a crush on and we dated for about a year and I broke up with her over stupid immature ****, we were both 13 then.

Fast forward to the present, since most of my middle school still keep in touch till this day I still see her around in social media. I haven't talked to her since we last broke up and after the relationships ive been thru I want to talk to her again and try to re conciliate things after a decade + of not talking. I still find her very attractive but there's one problem she has a kid and is living the single life so I don't know if I should step into her life and be that guy.

Any ideas?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Run forest run, head for the hills and don't look back. Leave her in the past with fond memories. I'm guessing you guys are around your mid 20. She's going to spin your head in circles. If you do ignore my advice and travel down that road trust me do not believe a word she says only trust her actions towards you. I just went through something similar and wish I found this place 8 months ago I would have never replied back to her and hanging out with her. Don't do it if this is your Oneitus there are other women out there that will not mess you up as bad if things go sideways.

If you do contact her only do it to say hello you may be setting yourself up for a bad ride I mean your already thinking about stepping in and raising another mans kid and you haven't even talked to this woman in 10 years she could be a closet lesbian for all you know. Don't approach this situation from a fantasy land view.
 
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Nostalgia's a powerful thing so I get the allure, but she's lived a different life and she's not who she was as a child. Neither are you. Sounds like something best left where it ended.
 

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Hey guys, I'm going to try to make this short and sweet.

I had a crush on this girl in middle school, this is by far the only girl till this day that I've had a crush on and we dated for about a year and I broke up with her over stupid immature ****, we were both 13 then.

Fast forward to the present, since most of my middle school still keep in touch till this day I still see her around in social media. I haven't talked to her since we last broke up and after the relationships ive been thru I want to talk to her again and try to re conciliate things after a decade + of not talking. I still find her very attractive but there's one problem she has a kid and is living the single life so I don't know if I should step into her life and be that guy.

Any ideas?
Don't. One chance per lifetime.

You are romanticising something from a decade ago. She is no longer that girl.

She is in her young 20's and already a single mother. Ask yourself why isn't she with the kids father?

You will just be supporting someone elses kid.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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