“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Here is a little known old movie: Roger Dodger (2002)


Rented this on Blockbuster and rented it on VHS back in the day and watched it on the old CRT TV. Have not re-watched it or seen it since 2002.

Movies are more intent to be entertaining and tend to go in one ear and out the other. You root for the people you identify with and feel hopeful. That's about it. They don't put a fire to your butt to make you approach someone.

Another movie would be Hitch (2005), and 40 Year Old Virgin (2004) -- while that it inteded as a feel good comedy, they did have good writing in terms of how he approached or talked to women and it had some cool moments, despite the title and premise...probably better than even Hitch (2005) in my opinion. If you want to pick up girls by crashing weddings, then you have Wedding Crashers (2005).
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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‘HookerMaxxing ‘?
That still counts right? lol.

Yeah I’ve mamged 2 occasionally but no way 4.
Sickening.
I had actually once done 8 in a 24 hour period. :eek: Only 225 EUR (had to put another coin in the parking meter for one of them).
 

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I had actually once done 8 in a 24 hour period. :eek: Only 225 EUR (had to put another coin in the parking meter for one of them).
haha. It was 2 dates-to-lays on the same night,
8!!! I hope some 3-ways in there,
For the professional ladies i only go 2 a time now
it’s worth splashing the cash for 2 pros at once. Great experience!

Or an 8-way even. imagine that.
Just line them all up side by side bent over on the bed :) whoop whoop!

btw where in the world did you get 8 for 225Euro.?!
That’s a steal.
 

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Here is a little known old movie: Roger Dodger (2002)


Rented this on Blockbuster and rented it on VHS back in the day and watched it on the old CRT TV. Have not re-watched it or seen it since 2002.

Movies are more intent to be entertaining and tend to go in one ear and out the other. You root for the people you identify with and feel hopeful. That's about it. They don't put a fire to your butt to make you approach someone.

Another movie would be Hitch (2005), and 40 Year Old Virgin (2004) -- while that it inteded as a feel good comedy, they did have good writing in terms of how he approached or talked to women and it had some cool moments, despite the title and premise...probably better than even Hitch (2005) in my opinion. If you want to pick up girls by crashing weddings, then you have Wedding Crashers (2005).
RogerDodger looks good. Defs checkin it out .

i liked the scene in the 40YOV when he picks up the chick ..the car scene . “Let’s gets get some ****ing FRENCH TOAST” . Very real re pickup and drunk chicks lol
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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RogerDodger looks good. Defs checkin it out .

i liked the scene in the 40YOV when he picks up the chick ..the car scene . “Let’s gets get some ****ing FRENCH TOAST” . Very real re pickup and drunk chicks lol
Yes, 40 year old virgin was entertaining at the time. It also was one of those "dread" titles that you feel "I'm going to end up this way" when you are in your late 20s and the marketing of that movie hits you, lol (ie I was 29 years old when that movie came out...so you can imagine, if you are 29 years old, a virgin, never had a gf, the title of the movie itself makes you feel like "this could be me")...I think many young adults, once they turn 30 y/o and have not hit any milestones feel dread about where they are going with that.

In terms of the movie scene itself, my personal favorite was the bookstore. He was rather smooth in how he picked-up that woman but hey, maybe it's just the writing of it. It did seem natural to me when I watched that:


This is just gold, I don't know how they wrote this in, but as a viewer it felt natural and sellable to me that someone could do that (ie again, the type of women you are dealing with matters allot. If she's carefree type like that one, as opposed to someone that feels like you'll be eaten alive, then it comes out differently. A woman could have just have acted stupid with him or "whatever"ish and the convo would have died there just the same).

While we are at it, here is also a "dating advice" scene from Fast Times at Ridgmount High


I was a child when this came out in cinema but did watch this when I turned into a cinephile when I purchased a 58 inch HD-TV in my mancave basement back in 2017, and during that phase, I happened to look at that movie. 80s is great for these type of goofy comedies.
 

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Something better than watching movies in my opinion is studying talk show hosts socialize. Watch guys like Jay Leno, Dave leatherman, Jimmy Fallon or a Craig Kilborn interact with their guests and watch their social skills at work.
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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In the video clip, Raphael tries to fashion-max (to compensate) by wearing a suit, and it still doesn’t work. He gets ignored by women and mogged by the tshirt guys. Absolutely spot on accurate/realistic.

For other movies, I would add “Can’t But Me Love” for its silly but realistic portrayal of social proof and reputation within a social circle.
so what is Raphael doing wrong? What does he need to do to become better w women? I haven’t seen the movie btw…
 

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American Psycho with Christian Bale- Main Character shows extreme alpha qualities with his pick of women (at his expense)

Talk Dirty To Me- displays successful mode one hardcore approaches/same day seductions (Where Alan Roger Currie got his inspiration)

Vince Vaughn in the first scene of 4 Christmases goes from mode 2 nice guy with boring small talk, until she emasculates him and he flipped a switch and grew a backbone and turns her on with direct communication.

after I read ARCs Mode One book and watched some of his interviews I downloaded that old porno movie to analyse. Never got around to it tho. Maybe I ought to….
 

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Hi James,
Yeah,I liked Alfie too,but the Michael Caine one was my favorite...
Alfie:"Whenever you meet a beautiful Woman,remember somewhere there's a Guy sick of Shvagging her..."
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Hi James,
Yeah,I liked Alfie too,but the Michael Caine one was my favorite...
Alfie:"Whenever you meet a beautiful Woman,remember somewhere there's a Guy sick of Shvagging her..."
I got the original on DVD sitting here but not watched yet. Must do soon.
love that quote. Heard it from buddies but didn’t realise it was from Alfie. Classic quote. :)

another excellent movie is the Spanish movie “Golden Balls” with Javier Bardem. About a macho Alpha male , his rise and his downfall. A great tale and lesson about nature of alpha-ness , strength , taking risks etc etc

and Scarface w Al Pacino of course. That’s an all time classic .
 
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Yes, 40 year old virgin was entertaining at the time. It also was one of those "dread" titles that you feel "I'm going to end up this way" when you are in your late 20s and the marketing of that movie hits you, lol (ie I was 29 years old when that movie came out...so you can imagine, if you are 29 years old, a virgin, never had a gf, the title of the movie itself makes you feel like "this could be me")...I think many young adults, once they turn 30 y/o and have not hit any milestones feel dread about where they are going with that.

In terms of the movie scene itself, my personal favorite was the bookstore. He was rather smooth in how he picked-up that woman but hey, maybe it's just the writing of it. It did seem natural to me when I watched that:


This is just gold, I don't know how they wrote this in, but as a viewer it felt natural and sellable to me that someone could do that (ie again, the type of women you are dealing with matters allot. If she's carefree type like that one, as opposed to someone that feels like you'll be eaten alive, then it comes out differently. A woman could have just have acted stupid with him or "whatever"ish and the convo would have died there just the same).

While we are at it, here is also a "dating advice" scene from Fast Times at Ridgmount High


I was a child when this came out in cinema but did watch this when I turned into a cinephile when I purchased a 58 inch HD-TV in my mancave basement back in 2017, and during that phase, I happened to look at that movie. 80s is great for these type of goofy comedies.
Fast Times at Ridgemont High was absolute cinema in a cheesy, 80's, coming of age way. Classic!
 

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Theres a scene in Casino Royale where Bond is at the beach club playing poker beats Dimitrios wins the Aston Martin and then proceeds to run some smooth game on his girlfriend Solange

the scene was short but was a great example of controlling frame and making women bend

Some script writers do absolutely nail this dynamic , trying to think of some more
 

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Yes, 40 year old virgin was entertaining at the time. It also was one of those "dread" titles that you feel "I'm going to end up this way" when you are in your late 20s and the marketing of that movie hits you, lol (ie I was 29 years old when that movie came out...so you can imagine, if you are 29 years old, a virgin, never had a gf, the title of the movie itself makes you feel like "this could be me")...I think many young adults, once they turn 30 y/o and have not hit any milestones feel dread about where they are going with that.

In terms of the movie scene itself, my personal favorite was the bookstore. He was rather smooth in how he picked-up that woman but hey, maybe it's just the writing of it. It did seem natural to me when I watched that:


This is just gold, I don't know how they wrote this in, but as a viewer it felt natural and sellable to me that someone could do that (ie again, the type of women you are dealing with matters allot. If she's carefree type like that one, as opposed to someone that feels like you'll be eaten alive, then it comes out differently. A woman could have just have acted stupid with him or "whatever"ish and the convo would have died there just the same).

While we are at it, here is also a "dating advice" scene from Fast Times at Ridgmount High


I was a child when this came out in cinema but did watch this when I turned into a cinephile when I purchased a 58 inch HD-TV in my mancave basement back in 2017, and during that phase, I happened to look at that movie. 80s is great for these type of goofy comedies.
I remember fellow alumni of my all-boys high school talking about regular schools as all being like "Fast Times at Ridgemont High". :mad:
 

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I remember fellow alumni of my all-boys high school talking about regular schools as all being like "Fast Times at Ridgemont High". :mad:
Humm....you didn't have school dances or socials where you intermingled with the sister-high school? They did have socials and dances and what not. I did not attend them because of very strict religious mother/upbringing that would see those dances as wordly/devilish, etc... even when hosted by a Catholic school, lol However, it's still a High School not a segregated jail. I did make female friends at a nearby Protestant church.
 
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