"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This thread rules. I only recently got into reading so my collection is fairly limited anyway quick question is that retire young retire rich book part of the rich dad poor dad series??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What a damn big ass list a-unit if you have more, please.... send it along... i am going to acquire them and read them and take notes and apply.. thanks...
 

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2 books that stood out on that for me:

48 laws of power - Amazing and interesting

How to win friends and influence people - Even my grandpa read this (and it came out in the 1930's I think.

I also wanna add "Sperm Wars" :p
 

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The Oddyssey - Homer.

I don't care where you are from, what type of man you are, whatever. The trials he goes through, and his never ending perseverance, along with his attitude, speech, etc, are what I consider to be, the epitome of man.

I mean if you can walk away from the ending of that book and not feel like a god then I don't know what can help you, for when I read that book I spoke as though I was in that book.

Pallas Athene be with you all.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Try to go to audible.com awesome site and also read the peaceful warrior.
 

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pooparu said:
The Oddyssey - Homer.

I don't care where you are from, what type of man you are, whatever. The trials he goes through, and his never ending perseverance, along with his attitude, speech, etc, are what I consider to be, the epitome of man.

I mean if you can walk away from the ending of that book and not feel like a god then I don't know what can help you, for when I read that book I spoke as though I was in that book.

Pallas Athene be with you all.

that is a great book. It's a classic that everyone should have read and know. Throw in there the Count of Monte Crisco, Beowulf, Great Expectations, The Scarlet Letter, the glass menagerie, The Cather in the Rye, To kill a mockingbird, Catch-22, A Tale of two cities, Brave new World, Fahrenheit 451, Hamlet, Lord of the flies, Moby ****, The Tao of Pooh (I love this damn book), The Grapes of Wrath & The Miracle Worker.

If you haven't read thoose books... get started. they are all true classics that are actually FUN to read. They all have in depth meanings that will teach you a thing or two.. and books are a cheaper form of entertainment than anything else, espically on amazon or even cheater...rapidshhare
 

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David Hawkins - Power Vs Force: the hidden determinants of human behavior
Daniel Rose - Sex Revolution Handbook
David Shade - Foundations/Give women wild screaming orgasms
The Book of Pook
David Deangelo - Attraction isn't a choice
 

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48 Laws of Power is the only book on that list you need.
 

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Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

It's all about quality, and though not a self-improvement book, as such, has a lot to say about what can draw one toward or away from quality. Good story, too.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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A-Unit said:
It was just how I cataloged the book. I think all of them are EQUALLY valuable. One book, that was truly eye-opening overall was "Awareness" by Anthony De Mello.
A_Unit

A-Unit, it's funny that you listed Awareness by De Mello as the book that was truly eye-opening for you. My friend actually recently lent this book out to me and I had just thumbed through it and it seemed like a rehash of bunches of other "live in the now" books. That is, until you mentioned the book and I said, "Hey!...I have that book", and proceeded to read 80 pages of it today....It's great so far! Thanks for the synchronistic intervention!
 

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the 48 laws of power is more like a life guideline than it is a book. It's like every book that you ever read, that was of any importance, rolled up into 1. Everything I do, game wise, life wise, women wise, revolves around that book. It's really the only self help book I have and as Rollo said, the rest is really just an extension of the base that book gives.

you are better off reading the 48 laws of power 20 times than reading 20 different books.. WAAY better off
 
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