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Recently I have been getting stuck during convo's... advice!!

Dole

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This is kind of unusual, or maybe it isn't and other's have experienced this as well. My thinking process is clouded and unclear when I am around girl's that I just meet or the one's that i am uncomfortable with. It feel's like I am stuck on what to say in that particular moment. But here is the catch, sometime after the conversation with the girl I usually analyze on how I behaved and what I said. So when I do this analyzation it all becomes clear to me on what I could have said or what I should have said to game her better. I noticed that this pattern has been occurring recently and not before. Now that I have shaped up a lot more around girl's and grasping the basic concept's down this has been occurring. Also I can give other friends great advice and some smooth lines what to say over text or how to approach a girl, but I just can't do it my self and when I do I get stuck and I am not my self. So I know my game is there but its somehow being blocked.
But recently as well I have been under a lot of stress with school, financial problems and broke up with a girl not to long ago, and other family/friend problems. I also stopped drinking/smoking weed and have been working out recently.
I guess I am going through some hard times right now and some personal changes, but that shouldn't justify my mind going into cloudy state of mind around a girl, or should it?
 

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This sort of stuff happens to me all the time. I look at it like bad nerves or something. Usually after a few minutes I'm away from the girl then I have a lucid concept of what should have been said, etc.... and sometimes it's even several hours away.
 

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Dole said:
This is kind of unusual, or maybe it isn't and other's have experienced this as well. My thinking process is clouded and unclear when I am around girl's that I just meet or the one's that i am uncomfortable with. It feel's like I am stuck on what to say in that particular moment. But here is the catch, sometime after the conversation with the girl I usually analyze on how I behaved and what I said. So when I do this analyzation it all becomes clear to me on what I could have said or what I should have said to game her better. I noticed that this pattern has been occurring recently and not before. Now that I have shaped up a lot more around girl's and grasping the basic concept's down this has been occurring. Also I can give other friends great advice and some smooth lines what to say over text or how to approach a girl, but I just can't do it my self and when I do I get stuck and I am not my self. So I know my game is there but its somehow being blocked.
But recently as well I have been under a lot of stress with school, financial problems and broke up with a girl not to long ago, and other family/friend problems. I also stopped drinking/smoking weed and have been working out recently.
I guess I am going through some hard times right now and some personal changes, but that shouldn't justify my mind going into cloudy state of mind around a girl, or should it?
Same here. Hard times but urge to game. I'll tell you what I did or do to overcome this:

Whenever I start feeling cloudy, I just try to think of all the possible reactions to all possible lines that I can add to the convo, and choose the best one.

Sometimes I go home and think about how I "could" have approached and what I "could" have said. This helps when I am in the exact same location or situation the next time.

Finally, practice makes perfect. No denying that. You will get ALL your answers in field.
 
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