"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Recently Ended LTR, Now Talking With A HB8. Little Rusty, Calling all Djs HELP..

xero88

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Hey fella,

MY girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago. Lately, I been on campus looking for new girls to talk to. I came across this girl that is a HB8. The thing is one of the her friend introduce me to her. I Dj her friend just for the heck of out because I was rusty. I think her friend like me somewhat, but she has a boyfriend. Now, her friend keep asking me do I like "HB8" and kept on teasing me. I just keep on denying it.

Now here is the catch HB8 just got out of an LTR as well. Nearly 3 years long. And then she dated another dude for two week, but I heard he backstabbed her or something like that. She said she hates guys because all they do is break her heart. Well, We have quite a lot of things in common. I been on the phone with HB8 about (2x) we had wonderful conversion and they were full of laughter. The thing is this week her work schedule is somewhat full. I will be hanging out with her on Thursday. I am planning to kino, have stimulating conversion, etc. What else should I be doing? I am also to planning to ask her to be my girlfriend by the end of this week. I am not sure is it too rushed. How many times should I hang out with her before I ask? Thanks Dj`s. Just really rusty at this point, but I think I am ready. I can't let this one slip away..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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L B

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You just got out of a relationship, don't rush into another one just yet.

You have not dated this girl yet, and you wanted her to be your girlfriend? If that's not rushing, I don't know what is. Rush in and you might win the title of rebound boy#2. Sounds like you're taking the first thing that comes along, you might want to reconsider.

Perhaps you should play the field for a couple of months, polish up those needed dj skills. You will be more informed and have better options. It will also make you a better boyfriend in the long run.
 

Magma

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A little concerned...

Xero, I see you have five posts and understand you are new. Me too. However, I'm a little concerned here. It's obvious that haven't read ANY of the DJ bible. You may have stumbled across this forum, and figured you might ask for a little dating advice. No problem. If you HAD read the DJ bible and all of its associated articles, you would realize that at the core, this resource is here to help men improve their lives. Success with women is the focus and by-product of that improvement.

I think it's a real slap in everyone's face here on the forum to come on here and throw around some acronyms and community terminology and then ask for advice on this?!?! I almost thought it was a joke at first, but then quickly realized you were serious and gave you a pity reply.

"I Dj her friend just for the heck of out because I was rusty."

You what?! You "DJ" her friend? What the heck does that mean anyhow? The reason I find your post offensive and ignorant is because I read the ENTIRE DJ BIBLE before I posted one single thread. I did my homework, and made a concious life decision to change myself for the better. I further find this post to be indicative of the lack of diligence on the part of some posters to adequately REFLECT on their situation before coming here with LEGITIMATE questions.

And speaking of the DJ bible, we need more "booster" posts to remind everyone of why we are here and what we are doing as well as offer encouragement. I offer this challenge to all forum members to contribute positive, encouraging, and substantive advice. We are not cavemen (arguably). Let's use our brains and write some intelligent and thought-provoking posts that challenge our notions, and in turn enrich each other's knowledge.

My rant is over...

Respect.
 

penkitten

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i would agree with lb and spin more plates right now too.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Paintballguy

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penkitten said:
i would agree with lb and spin more plates right now too.
Yes, and never ask a girl to be in a relationship.... Thats her job, not yours.
 
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