Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Recent Study Confirms: Women Do Have Unrealistic Expectations

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Do women really want a muscular millionaire with a Mercedes, as Judge Nismo suggests?

Indeed, when we use science to quantify just how rare the men women claim to be seeking are, we find some peculiar numbers.

To summarize, she wants the best guy out of 40 - for three statistics. That means that unless you are the best guy out of 64,000 (40 to the power of 3, or the 99.998 percentile), you will fall short of her expectations. Isn't TV great?

I've often wondered how it is that I can be in the top 1% of income and the top 1% of height (meaning only 1 in 10,000 men is as tall AND earns as much), and I'm often struggling as much as the next guy. This explains why. They still imagine a guy 6.4 times as rare as me. I'm only in the 99.99 percentile, they want 99.998.

Source: http://www.businessinsider.com/female-standards-of-male-attractiveness-are-way-unrealistic-2013-4

This was referenced by Evan Marc Katz, in "Why Don't Men Hate Being Single As Much as Women Do?", which has a fantastic discussion that was filtered by Evan and offers hours of interesting reading.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Why men avoid relationships.... gee I can sum that up pretty quick.

The longer you are with a women, the more she expects you to do for her... stay in that situation long enough, and you find that your ENTIRE life has been sacrificed to her needs and wants, and you are expected to just accept the fact that everything you want takes a back seat.
 

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On one hand, at age 45 I must admit I had my share of disappointments. On the other hand, there isn't one girl I dated, and I dated about 100 women, that I look back and wish I married.

Some men imagine that the girl from 10 years ago, had they married her then, would somehow still be as hot as she was then, but that's not true. She would be old and fat by now, and chances are she was never a kind, nurturing, loving person to begin with, but a hang out, hook up bar fly.
 

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This is retarded. Humans have unrealistic expectations, not just women. Humans are also very good at making one-sided assertions, especially if it puts their own group in a good light. Completely ignoring they're no better themselves.
 

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all world views are self views. What I mean is fvck whatever anyone is saying or believing, live for yourself, be a selfish motherfvcker and whoever want to join the ride with for awhile then cool and when they leave then cool, live in the present moment, plan for your future by using your own critical thinking.

by doing all the above you will see a different reality and you won't give two fvcks about all this sexual market crap anyway. Living in the present moment and doing whatever you feel like is the secret to happiness or whatever because then you won't think twice about all what women think they want and lets face it anyone who has experiences with many women know that women are only know how to nag and they have no fvcking idea what they want.

What they want is just borrowed from the media, magazines, their friends..etc. Sit with a girl and ask her existential questions and deep questions about desires, life, world views or whatever and you will see how all them don't think for themselves, actually not just women but most men and people in general. Women are just programmed differently so judge by experience and not by consumed materials and views.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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On one hand, at age 45 I must admit I had my share of disappointments. On the other hand, there isn't one girl I dated, and I dated about 100 women, that I look back and wish I married.

Some men imagine that the girl from 10 years ago, had they married her then, would somehow still be as hot as she was then, but that's not true. She would be old and fat by now, and chances are she was never a kind, nurturing, loving person to begin with, but a hang out, hook up bar fly.
Im a college kid but I can see girls from highschool who used to be the hot ones and now they are fuggin gross. They aged up quickly
 

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Sit with a girl and ask her existential questions and deep questions about desires, life, world views or whatever and you will see how all them don't think for themselves, actually not just women but most men and people in general.
Wrong. I am a man and I know what exactly I do, what exactly I speak, and what exactly I want.

Maybe, I am an exception, according to your statement.
 

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Life has a funny way of kicking peoples asses who have unrealistic expectations... Wether its Work, college/uni, nights out, relationships, part of growing up!
 

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Life has a funny way of kicking peoples asses who have unrealistic expectations... Wether its Work, college/uni, nights out, relationships, part of growing up!
Directly and Indirectly I guess we always expect something,, but honestly the moment we have expectations in any endeavor the battle is already half way lost, Im more of a believer that you should go for what you want relentlessly with trial and error.
 

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Directly and Indirectly I guess we always expect something,, but honestly the moment we have expectations in any endeavor the battle is already half way lost, Im more of a believer that you should go for what you want relentlessly with trial and error.
Cant agree with you more, uve goto keep trying(this doesnt mean doing the same thing over and over) trying nu ideals, techniques, beliefs etc!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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