Recent Encounters

[The Duke]

Thought I would share some of my recent dealings with females to promote awareness of what many of them are capable of. There are very few you should take seriously and award relationship status too. Don’t be naïve to what they will do. The picture they paint of how innocent and pure they are is often very different than reality. These are all stories that have happened in the past month. Their emotions drive their decisions and even then they admit they don't know why they do what they do. Love them or hate them, that's the nature of the beast. There is a lot of wisdom/advice that gets shared on this forum that sounds a little harsh and jaded at times but there is good reason for most of it.

#1
Met a girl out dancing at a country bar. I thought it would be a one dance and done type deal as most are. But after I took her back to her friends she told me she would dance with me whenever I wanted and hoped to see me again.

Later on that night I found her again and we had a few more dances. She tells me she has a boyfriend that lives out of state. Her body language tells me otherwise. She introduces me to her friends which I thought was odd if she really had a boyfriend. So after some brief conversation I ask for her number and she gives it to me. I even watched her phone light up with my number when I called her while standing there. 2 days later I text her and get no response. I’m guessing she really did have a boyfriend and her need for attention/validation exceeded her desire to remain loyal to her man. I’m sure he would not have approved of her actions! Or she changed her mind about me, who the hell knows.

#2
I texted one of my exgf’s that I can always count on for late night hookup sex! She usually gets all bitchy when I text her after 1 AM right before the bars close and accuses me of using her, so this time I started texting at 10pm Saturday nite while I’m out! I try to get her to come over to my house and she tells me it will have to be later the next day(Sunday). I figure she is trying to blow me off and had enough of Howie’s late night love missile attacks. So I throw out the “ok, come over Sunday evening and we can get some drinks/appetizers then spend the rest of the evening suspended from my sex swing. She showed up and the first thing I do is drop those panties and get to work…….then we head out for some drinks. Every one of them love aggressive men that go for what they want. She tries to shame me for my actions but she wasn’t fooling me!

After sex we head out for some drinks at a local bar downtown, she explains to me that she was on a date last night and it happened to be the 4th date with this new guy. I’m thinking to myself…….ahh haa, your dirty little azz was texting me naughty things trying to set up a time for sex and you couldn’t meet me when I wanted because you were out with this other guy. She forgets she isn’t the smartest girl and when she has a few drinks her mouth is like a runaway train. I made sure to punish her for bad behavior once we got back to my house.

#3
This girl I met out of my social circle. She is a good friend of my cousin. She had shown some significant interest in me when I first met her with her boyfriend at one point. A few weeks go by and she breaks up with the on and off boyfriend of several years. I get a facebook friend request soon after and she offers me her phone number without me even asking.

We end up going out a few times and have a blast. Plenty of make out time and intimate dancing. On one date I had her phone/mini-purse stuffed down the front of my pants and could feel her phone vibrating. Thing went off so many times that I about did too! (Later found out that it was the exboyfriend and one of her orbiters blowing her phone up. At one point I made a joke about it vibrating and she went to the bathroom and called the ex and told him to stop calling) Our brief relationship was escalating nicely despite the other guys chasing after her. Sex was going to happen on the next date for sure. She was starting to text and call more. Conversations were getting longer.

I go to schedule another date and have a hard time getting her to commit. I back off a few days and try again. No luck.

I start asking around and turns out she is getting back with her boyfriend which I suspected could happen. At one point she told me she had a meeting with her boyfriend to put things to rest and take him his belongings. I said “hey, don’t let me hurt your chances of reconciling anything”.……she responded with strong defiance which told me she wasn't over him.

Well people always talk, turns out she got with me to make her exboyfriend mad because he cheated on her which is what led to their breakup. The exboyfriend was jealous of me to begin with so I was the perfect candidate to help her carry out her game.

#4
I also met this girl out of the same social circle and she is friends with girl #3. She has shown interest a few times over the past year but she has always had the same boyfriend. We happen to be at the local bar that the social circle hangs out and I tell everybody I’m leaving and going dancing and asked if anybody wanted to go. Well this girl wants to go, she loves to dance and her introverted boyfriend whom is sitting at home is afraid to dance. She is hesitant to ride with me because of what has happened between us previously(kissing, tried to take me to her apartment one night). She ends up riding with me anyways. She is best friends with my cousin and I don’t want to be the reason she breaks up with her boyfriend whom she just bought a very nice/expensive house with. We danced a few times, and with every drink she gets closer and more intimate. On the way home she is trying to hold my hand and doing every thing she can to makeout with her. She ends up forgetting where she lives(yeah right….likely an excuse to spend more time with me). At one point she asked how far away my house was! I ended up dropping her off at her brand new house she bought with her boyfriend. I felt so bad for that chump. His pretty girl realizes she made a bad decision in moving in with him and is out trying to branch swing to the next cahk.

I wouldn’t trust any of these girls and 3 out of the 4 have good reputations and what I would call pretty solid when I first met them. The were all HB8's with lots of options.

One thing I’ve learned over the years with women, is their loyalty and moral compass is totally dependent on their emotional happiness at that time. Every one of them will act like a little slut at the right time with the right guy. Encounters like these make me want to go back to my old days of changing out girls every few months. Its why its a good reason to spin plates and give in to none.

 

[ohrein]

I think most of the older DJ's have had this experience on "the other side" of dating, I know I certainly have. But the common thread always tends to be unhappy in their relationship, rather than emotional whim. I think there are some women who have no self control, and sure if they can find a guy who is significantly higher value than their current one, hypergamy will run its course. But when I was with girls in relationships (and marriages), the common thread was unhappiness and low impulse control (alcohol/drugs/going out). Most of them knew what they were doing, I don't buy the whole "it just happened" argument.

If these girls had a guy they respected who added value to their life and had their own lives in order, I don't think they'd cheat nearly as easily as some people on here seem to suggest. Not saying they won't at the right moment, but certainly not like the girls you describe who are just out monkey branching.

Am I deluded? Would any woman cheat at any time? I certainly am ready for that with any woman I date, but from my observations it seems like there are common criteria that go along with cheating. Any guys had experiences with girls who have boyfriends they are actually happy with? I find this stuff really interesting.