"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Prozac

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Hypothetically speaking, let's say you sent a text to a girl at lunchtime. Nothing big is going on, it's just you texting some girl. She doesn't respond for a few hours, but does eventually respond.

This is obviously a sign of low buying temperature or whatever lingo you want to use (or some other circumstances not worth considering), but what would you dudes do here?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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guywhoneedshelp

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This is not obviously a sign of anything. Maybe she wasn't near her phone. Maybe she went from the gym to the shower to the bed and took a nap, or maybe she was driving while she saw the message yet was cool enough to make a mental note to herself to text you back.
 

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you can't over analyze these type of things. like guywhowon said, there could be a million reasons why she didn't respond immediately. But since she took a while to respond, I wouldn't respond to her immediately either. I never recommend replying immediately anyways.
 

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true enough. you guys really don't let up on the tiny things, do you? ;)

could have used some lines i could rip for today or another time, but your advice will do. thanks
 

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Girls will sometimes play "hard to get" so to speak. I usually give it time before writing texts back too, no matter who it is. Girls are the same.

Don't trip over it too much.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Prozac said:
true enough. you guys really don't let up on the tiny things, do you? ;)

could have used some lines i could rip for today or another time, but your advice will do. thanks
what's the situation man i'll see if i can help u
 

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jdbman11 said:
what's the situation man i'll see if i can help u
Sure, I'd appreciate that.

I called her after a few texts back and forth. She didn't answer. I left a message teasing her and telling her to get off her cute bum and call me, then left to do more important ****.

She DID eventually call me, as I found out this morning, but it was 4 hours after I left my text, which was around 7:00. Couldn't pick up even if I wanted to, since I was asleep.

Plan on calling one more time this week. Good idea, y/n?
 

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You need to be careful about giving all your "power" away. With you initiating everything, SHE is the one who controls the entire frame. She can play mind games with you by not replying/answering, and seeing how you are going to REACT.

My advice would be to play it cool for a few days and lay low. Show her you have more important things going on than sitting around staring at your phone waiting for her to get back to you.
 

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I'm not planning on calling any more than one more time, if you were thinking that badly of me :rolleyes:
 

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In the end, I ended up calling this chick yesterday, on Wednesday. She didn't pick up, and I went on with my life.

She sent a text message again, saying something along the lines of 'you're not good at this lol'. I got a small laugh out of this, alongside the small bit of me that was bothered by it.

I'm thinking of ignoring it. She's trying to get a rise, and the few texts I've come up with just don't vibe right. Responding at all seems pretty stupid.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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