"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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recalling back then... what should i have done?

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im sorry if i have been excessively posting for some of you DJ's tastes.

but its good to know that there is such a forum that will help newbies and reformed AFC's like myself.

I just remembered back then when i was going on an AFC date with a hot chick HB 8.5.

So we arranged a date, i was supposed to pick her up at 9:00pm.

but then i rang the doorbell, she was unprepared. she took a bath, dressed up, ect etc.

i spent 30 minutes in my car, around another 30 minutes when she finally let me in. a total of 60 minutes / 1 hour of waiting time for her.

some of my friends told me i shoulda ditched.

but it took me:

time to dress up, time to go to her place 45 minutes + the anticipation. i was very excited. so i couldnt just ditch her and wonder "what could have been"...

i am now in the friends' zone, but i dont care. i just want to know what i could have done to prevent this in the future.

i am very very SET with my new found skills, but i am just curious as to what i should have done in the past as i am certain i might encounter something like this in the future.

*i jus want to clear things up, i am no longer very AFC, and this is in the past, im just trying to figure out what i should have done/ i am pretty successful right with girls now and i am still constantly learning.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Did i read that right? You waited an hour for this cvnt like a subservient poodle? Sheesh no wonder you were LJBF'd, thats like a go directly to friends zone do not pass go do not collect your manhood.

Thats truly disgusting, whats it like to have zero dignity?

Fvck AFC that goes above and beyond into the realms of straight up humiliation and degredation to another human.
 

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you should ask her how long you have to wait. when she says, 30 minutes. then you drive away for 1h, if she says 1h. you telling her - i be back in 40 minutes. you better be ready. i got some stuff to do. and you also come after 1h.
 

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oh man i was pathetic. i thought it was a deadend. i had 2 choices:

a)wait 1 hour for her

b)go home and "time wasted, opportunity wasted, gas wasted"

it was lose-lose i gues.
 

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No, it wasn't a lose-lose situation. It was a win-lose situation and you clearly lost.

As Tittymaster said, you could have walked away with your balls intact, but yet you lingered on as a little whipped puppy.

I personally have this 2 min pr point on the hotness scale waiting principles. Meaning that if she's an absolute stunning knock out chick, I'd wait 18 mins TOPS! And this depends heavily upon my mood. I have better things to do than wait for a stupid b!tch getting ready.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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With my luck lately she never woulda answered (flaked lol).

If this happened now id probably just leave, get some food, hang out a bit then go back. if dinner was in the plans it is now downgraded to drive through i might bring back. if there are other plans and she is ready then i might stick to them.. if it was only a dinner date well shees all dressed up with nomplace to go. (not a total waste for me. im full and driving my car around (its my weekend ride) is a treat)

Does that sound good or is it too nice/harsh still?
 

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do what i said and you will score!
 
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