"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hyper2010

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Hi guys. Just found out my ex gf I split up with 3 weeks ago is sleeping with someone already. Ive never been in this situation before and weirdly it hurts and is upsetting me. Is this normal? Or is she just too loose in her morals to ever be serious relationship material?

Any thoughts guys?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sorry to be the one who has to tell you this but, she was probably talking to him while you two were together. He got eventually got her.

Advice from a drunk plate's_empty: move on. She'll get bored with him eventually and start pinging you. Just seeing what you're up to. Ignore.

Do you want her back?? Of course you do. Then by all means, when she starts hitting you up, do not respond.

Wait till she starts spilling her heart out. Then wait some more. Then make her beg. Then put her on as a provisional basis, like you'll only start seeing her on Tuesday. Then start calling her that....Tuesday.

Her: what are you doing?
You: Why are you contacting me Tuesday? It's Wednesday.

That's it. You're golden.
 

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Do you really think she will contact me? She made it quite clear she didn't want anymore contact...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dunno about a creeper...tried sorting it out, ie begging, flowers etc....got some much higher quality plates in production though so not to worry
 

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Hyper2010 said:
Dunno about a creeper...tried sorting it out, ie begging, flowers etc....got some much higher quality plates in production though so not to worry
Don't count on her coming back, mate. You probably blew it.
 

Hyper2010

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I'm not mate, but I think for long term she bit too messy for me
 

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Can't help but feel that not only was she texting someone, but possibly sleeping with them too....last few times we did it it seemed to hurt her. Is this a reliable sign she's receiving a double dose?
 

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Near enough every girl I've known who has broke up with a long term boyfriend has started sleeping around with numerous guys within a couple of weeks of the break up. They do this to try kid themselves into thinking that they're over it and to prove to themselves that they're attractive. Not that you have to be particularly attractive to get sex as a female.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Which are all a bunch of facts or theories which will do nothing to help you get over her.

Your goal here should not be to figure out where she went wrong and how much of a slut she's gonna be now that her collar's off. Your goal should be to stop thinking about her and start thinking about how you're gonna catch better girls.
 

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Hyper2010 said:
Can't help but feel that not only was she texting someone, but possibly sleeping with them too....last few times we did it it seemed to hurt her. Is this a reliable sign she's receiving a double dose?

She already emotionally broke up with you well before the break up and yeah, she probably was banging another guy at that point....try not and take it so personally...it happens to everyone at one point in their lives...go meet other chicks...quickest way to get over it...
 

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Hyper2010 said:
Hi guys. Just found out my ex gf I split up with 3 weeks ago is sleeping with someone already. Ive never been in this situation before and weirdly it hurts and is upsetting me. Is this normal? Or is she just too loose in her morals to ever be serious relationship material?

Any thoughts guys?

This is normal behaviour by women...100%...This is why men are, most of the time, hardest hit...they never see it coming, and within days she's inhaling c0ck like a Dyson.

Every notion that has been socially engineered into your soul about women is a paradox...the complete opposite is true. The sooner you realize this, the better prepared you will be.
 

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you have to admit though, it is fun pumping and dumping women who just got out of a relationship and are looking for a rebound...they are easy pickings...any time i talk to a girl at a bar or online who just broke up with her BF..boom always guaranteed action...
 

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If it makes you feel better, its because she's too weak to be on her own.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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