"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Wiesman44

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So i have a date w/ this girl that broke up w/ her b/f of 1 year about 2 weeks ago.

I'm worried that I'll be the rebound guy. I gamed her really well at a party a few days ago and we have a date on Tuesday. She said a few times at teh party 'you better not just want a booty call' and she asked me about relationships and such. She was REALLY into me.

She broke up w/ her b/f of one year mainly b/c he didnt care enough about her, or so she says.


My question is, how will u know if its genuine interest, or the rebound guy, and how can u prevent it ? Is it more than likely she's on the rebound ? Do most girls go on the rebound ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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HeartlessBtch

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I can't help but look at you as a rebound guy at this particular moment. When girls get out of an LTR the first thing that pops into their heads is how lonely they are and they need someone else to get their minds of the ex. I'm not saying all girls are the same, but from previous experiences and stories I have heard it seems to me that a lot of girls think the same way. If you two start getting attached and you see the possibility of becoming more than friends, I suggest you let her know how you feel and question her about the possibility about being the rebound guy.
 

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whatever u do, dont use the word "rebound" when refering to yourself, haha. I made that mistake once. Girls dont like to admit they are on the rebound so dont even suggest it.
 

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If a chick mentioned ex boyfriend or boyfriend within the first 3 dates without me asking about it, I immediately distance myself away from her. Those are my rules.
 

Wiesman44

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every one of my dates, we mention past b/f's and g/f's. Just something that comes in convo.


Anyways, is there any strategy to use to avoid being that guy that just gets a$$. Granted a$$ would be nice, but I have no problem getting it, and its getting kinda old. I'm looking for a nice girl to start a relationship w/.

This girl might not be the one to do that, but I'd like to give it my best shot, and avoid being the rebound guy.


So any thoughts to avoid it ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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RedPill

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Originally posted by themanwithnoname
If a chick mentioned ex boyfriend or boyfriend within the first 3 dates without me asking about it, I immediately distance myself away from her. Those are my rules.
This should be every guy's rule! Some girls don't seem to understand what an attraction killer it is. She usually thinks she's just telling stories about herself. As soon as it happens the first things that pops in our minds are:

1) ex is still on your mind, has your emotions going
2) it's certainly possible now that you and the ex still hook up on ocassion.

I can't believe how many women out there seem oblivious to this. The ex discussions are best saved until you know each other a lot better.
 

ER!C L!VE

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Chix are into relationships.. they love talking about them.. You're not going to find one who doesn't want to talk about them.

If she brings up her ex, just go with it. Sure, if she talks about him like she still wants to get back together, then it's a definite red flag, but most girls just like talking about that stuff.
 

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What's wrong with being the rebound guy?

No strings attached, some good sex sessions, no lovey-dovey bull****...
 

Wiesman44

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I get enough sex (not to brag, but I do). Just came back from a session w/ a hook-up buddy. Thing is I'm bored of just having sex. I want something more. And this girl I'm about to go on a date w/ has teh ideal cute, personality type I want in a girl. I'm not saying I have feelings for her yet, just that I'd like to avoid being the rebound if at all possible so i could steer things in the right direction.
 
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