Rebound Coming Back? If It Was a Rebound...

[MG7592]

Classic love bomb… beware, that kind of behavior on her part could also be a big BPD red flag.
We always Assume, based on her words that all the problems in her previous deal was her exes fault. Look for actions and flags with any new girl. Screen hard

Could be. i don't know much about her past relationship. Other than she got cheated on twice, they had a lot of little stupid arguments over like her posting selfies on social media and he'd yell at her for that and shed do it anyways, and she said towards the end the sex was horrible. That's all I know.

But there's a lot I left out about her. In terms of her habits and lifestyle.

She's get really mad whenever I liked girls pics on social media. And if i hadn't texted her jn like 4-5 hours she'd text me saying "why aren't you talking to me" seems to be very insecure with very low self esteem.
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[MG7592]

This ^^^ = arrogance + oneitis
This ^^^ = unteachable + denial
This ^^^ = very rough journey ahead, to learn the hard way.

Hahah oh I'm sorry, were you there with us and watching everything happen?? Because I kinda miss a girl I was seeing and am curious what happened makes it a oneitis? If I was so obsessed I don't think I would have gone out and slept with 2 other women since we've stopped talking, I'm just explaining how we got along so well and everything felt right with her, that's all. And yeah, I'm really confident I didn't do anythjng. It's not hard to not screw up in only a couple months when it's something new with someone new when two people get along the way we did. If you want me to bring up one place where I could have screwed up, is when we were on the phone and I was surprised and kinda pissed to hear plans get cancelled and her tell me she's going on vacation with him and I said "not sure if this will work out" cause then that could have gotten her thinking like "yeah maybe he's right" but I doubt it was something that small. I apologized and told her it will workout immediately after and if she was really into me as it seemed I don't think she would have rethought everything, I'm sure she would have said yeah let's give it a shot. But I think that got her thinking about other things and made her realize she might not be over him. Cause when we talked a few days later her excuse was she wasn't sure if it'd workout cause the distance, once I said that's easily doable, she says she's scared and not ready for another relationship so soon and wants to slow things down, but then agrees to keep things going with us and see how it goes

And it was a month and a half between the first time we hung out and she went away with her ex and his family, but she told me about it 2 weeks ago

 

[grayclif]

After only 6 weeks you planned a vacation with a single mom that lives an hour away whose former lover has only been out the picture for 4 weeks since you met and you expectations are what exactly?

Such a lengthy posts about some single mom you just met. I think you have oneitis and you need to pull back and spin a few other plates.

 

[MG7592]

After only 6 weeks you planned a vacation with a single mom that lives an hour away whose former lover has only been out the picture for 4 weeks since you met and you expectations are what exactly?

Such a lengthy posts about some single mom you just met. I think you have oneitis and you need to pull back and spin a few other plates.

Lol what the fuk, where did I say I planned a vacation with this girl?? And it was a bit longer than just 4 weeks than we met. My expectations in the beginning were nothing. We just hooked up, I obviously didn't have feelings for that quickly, but the it turned into more. When I saw how recently she had gotten out of a relationship I immediately thought rebound. Told myself to be careful and not get too ahead of myself but eventually that all went out the window and I let it happen as she began to come on stronger and stronger. But eventually my expectations were for us to continue to hang out and see each other and see what happens. I have pulled back, last texted her on Wednesday last week, she then snapchats me 7 times Friday night but I don't respond to any of them. Idk what the **** spin other plates means, assuming meaning see other women, which I have, like I said if you read a damn thing, I've banged two other girls in the past week after we stopped talking.

If you're going to say stupid **** like this that isn't helpful in any way just don't post.

If you're not going to provide an answer or something relevant to my original question "do rebounds come back" obviously after getting over their ex, then just don't post cause I don't give a **** what you have to say otherwise

 

[grayclif]

Lol what the fuk, where did I say I planned a vacation with this girl?? And it was a bit longer than just 4 weeks than we met. My expectations in the beginning were nothing. We just hooked up, I obviously didn't have feelings for that quickly, but the it turned into more. When I saw how recently she had gotten out of a relationship I immediately thought rebound. Told myself to be careful and not get too ahead of myself but eventually that all went out the window and I let it happen as she began to come on stronger and stronger. But eventually my expectations were for us to continue to hang out and see each other and see what happens. I have pulled back, last texted her on Wednesday last week, she then snapchats me 7 times Friday night but I don't respond to any of them. Idk what the **** spin other plates means, assuming meaning see other women, which I have, like I said if you read a damn thing, I've banged two other girls in the past week after we stopped talking.

If you're going to say stupid **** like this that isn't helpful in any way just don't post.

If you're not going to provide an answer or something relevant to my original question "do rebounds come back" obviously after getting over their ex, then just don't post cause I don't give a **** what you have to say otherwise

Who knows/cares if they come back. You have no control over that. All you have control over is what you do. It's obvious she is more interested in someone other than you. And this site teaches us to only be interested in people that have interest in us.

So if you are concerned about her rebounding to the last guy then that means her interest is elsewhere. And if her interest is elsewhere them you should place your interests elsewhere as well. Additionally, she's a single mom and on the look out for beta bux.

 

[fastlife]

If you are considering getting serious (i.e. emotionally investing) with a single mother, when there are other girls who don't have kids, who don't have exes still in the picture, you probably have oneitis--if you're wondering about whether she'll come back even though she fvcked her ex and the father of her kids on vacation, you definitely have oneitis.

Oneitis is a state of mind, not based on physical reality. For instance, you could be trapped on an island with one girl for the rest of your life and never catch oneitis for her; or you could be in a modern city with millions of girls and even sleep with a new girl every night and still have oneitis for that 'one special girl.' Not a knock--happens to all of us from time to time. But you have to accept it before you can let it go. By resisting the notion you have oneitis, you're reinforcing you're oneitis in the inverse. Make sense?

Now onto the second problem: single mothers. Of course they're cool (til they have you hooked); they know that having a kid drops their RMV (relationship market value) 3 or more points and will be compelled to make up for it in other ways. They are also strictly on the market for a beta--unless you're strictly the hookup guy (which you might've been, but then you caught feelings). You can't have a longstanding relationship with this girl and be alpha--her hypergamy won't allow it; she needs male investment desperately. You probably didn't fit the bill all that well (good thing, really), but her ex dropped her and she had to find somebody ASAP. She doesn't have time to waste with you. But you let your ego get involved. Again, no shade; it happens. But you have to realize it.

You're 24. I don't care how awesome this girl is, give it a year or two and you'll realize the extent of the bullet you just judged. Went through a similar situation with a single mom when I was 19. Thank god she only saw me as a hot hookup (even though she promised a lot more than that)--my bluepill ass was ready to jeopardize my future for that girl. When she dropped me for a provider, I was devastated. I felt emasculated and helpless. It was only four or fi e years later when she started hitting me up trying to hookup when she was in town (even though she's engaged to her provider/proxy father to her child) that I realized I won that game in a big way.

Now for advice. Block her number; delete her from social media--for your sake. If, after a year, you still think it's a good idea to get re-involved with this girl, go for it.

 

[MG7592]

If you are considering getting serious (i.e. emotionally investing) with a single mother, when there are other girls who don't have kids, who don't have exes still in the picture, you probably have oneitis--if you're wondering about whether she'll come back even though she fvcked her ex and the father of her kids on vacation, you definitely have oneitis.

Oneitis is a state of mind, not based on physical reality. For instance, you could be trapped on an island with one girl for the rest of your life and never catch oneitis for her; or you could be in a modern city with millions of girls and even sleep with a new girl every night and still have oneitis for that 'one special girl.' Not a knock--happens to all of us from time to time. But you have to accept it before you can let it go. By resisting the notion you have oneitis, you're reinforcing you're oneitis in the inverse. Make sense?

Now onto the second problem: single mothers. Of course they're cool (til they have you hooked); they know that having a kid drops their RMV (relationship market value) 3 or more points and will be compelled to make up for it in other ways. They are also strictly on the market for a beta--unless you're strictly the hookup guy (which you might've been, but then you caught feelings). You can't have a longstanding relationship with this girl and be alpha--her hypergamy won't allow it; she needs male investment desperately. You probably didn't fit the bill all that well (good thing, really), but her ex dropped her and she had to find somebody ASAP. She doesn't have time to waste with you. But you let your ego get involved. Again, no shade; it happens. But you have to realize it.

You're 24. I don't care how awesome this girl is, give it a year or two and you'll realize the extent of the bullet you just judged. Went through a similar situation with a single mom when I was 19. Thank god she only saw me as a hot hookup (even though she promised a lot more than that)--my bluepill ass was ready to jeopardize my future for that girl. When she dropped me for a provider, I was devastated. I felt emasculated and helpless. It was only four or fi e years later when she started hitting me up trying to hookup when she was in town (even though she's engaged to her provider/proxy father to her child) that I realized I won that game in a big way.

Now for advice. Block her number; delete her from social media--for your sake. If, after a year, you still think it's a good idea to get re-involved with this girl, go for it.

I know. I never said I didn't have oneitis, I don't think I did. But I do. Banged two other girls and it didn't help me at all get over her so yeah. I keep telling myself I dodged a bullet too by not getting even further involved since she's a single mom at just 19 (just turned 19) and she just seems very insecure, low self esteem, she smokes weed and drinks, all these things that I don't like in a woman and would immediately reject her but for some reason this girl I didn't. I think it's because it started out as just a hook up, and we continued hanging out, and we just got along so so well, like extremely well, personalities came together perfect, could talk on the phone for hours, sexual compatibility was amazing. don't think I've ever gotten along any better with any other girl in my life. And even though she does those things I don't like, I understand she's only 19 and they could change and she could stop smoking and drinking, pick up some hobbies and hit the gym and take better care of her self. really strange situation. I've banged other single moms, but I kept it at strictly that since typically I'd want nothing to do with a single mom. Especially with the way I look and my age abd knowing there's tons of beautiful girls out there without children. I tell myself all this but it's still hard to get over.

If she came back I'm not even sure if I'd take her. I miss her, but at the same time I'm probably dodging a bullet by staying out of it and avoiding any of this baby daddy drama and getting involved with her. And I'd rather have my own family, not a ready made one that I just hop into.

Tomorrow marks exactly two weeks since the last time we've talked. So Wednesday, then Friday she snapchats me 7 times and I don't respond to any of them, and she hasn't since.

 

[MG7592]

Very tempted to text her but not even sure what I'd say. And tomorrow marks only 2 weeks. Thinking of waiting another 2.5 weeks and wishing her son a happy birthday. Which she'll probably be shocked that I remember his birthday.

 

[fastlife]

Very tempted to text her but not even sure what I'd say. And tomorrow marks only 2 weeks. Thinking of waiting another 2.5 weeks and wishing her son a happy birthday. Which she'll probably be shocked that I remember his birthday.

Don't. That's 100% beta game. I'd look up BPD if I were you--that's something women'll never grow out of and, if you have any sort of narcissistic tendencies, will feel like a perfect fit and'll knock you off your game.

 

[Ronaldo7]

Don't text. You came away unscathed.

Single moms are like broken eggs or a dirty napkin. Stay away from them. Damaged goods.

 

[MG7592]

Don't. That's 100% beta game. I'd look up BPD if I were you--that's something women'll never grow out of and, if you have any sort of narcissistic tendencies, will feel like a perfect fit and'll knock you off your game.

Isn't that the personality disorder thing?? Don't text her at all? Or just the happy birthday part?

 

[fastlife]

Isn't that the personality disorder thing?? Don't text her at all? Or just the happy birthday part?

Don't text. Yes. Might be off the mark but any time a guy who usually is pretty solid about his standards meets 'that one special girl' who's 'just a little insecure'--even though rationally she hits a bunch of red flags he usually wouldn't let slide--there's a good chance she falls on the Cluster B spectrum. Read up on that. See if she fits--if she does, run. If she doesn't--wait a couple months and see if you still think texting her is a good idea.

 

[MG7592]

Don't text. You came away unscathed.

Single moms are like broken eggs or a dirty napkin. Stay away from them. Damaged goods.

I know I know that's what I keep telling myself. And normally a single mom would be completely off limits to me, for some reason she wasn't though. And like I said I don't think I'd even take her back if she wanted to get back together. Cause I hate how she's still soooo close to her ex's side of the family. And if it stays that way I can't imagine what the step father would have to go through. So much baby daddy drama. I've never fallen for a single mom before cause i know there's soooo many beautiful single women without kids. I've been with hotter women without kids before than this girl, but somethig about her is hard to let go. I've been doing good getting over her and at one point it was getting Better and better and today is the worst I think it's ever been yet

 

[MG7592]

Don't text. Yes. Might be off the mark but any time a guy who usually is pretty solid about his standards meets 'that one special girl' who's 'just a little insecure'--even though rationally she hits a bunch of red flags he usually wouldn't let slide--there's a good chance she falls on the Cluster B spectrum. Read up on that. See if she fits--if she does, run. If she doesn't--wait a couple months and see if you still think texting her is a good idea.

I looked it up. Hard to tell if that's her. She was really insecure. Just The day before things went south between us she saw me on social media and texts me "why are you liking pics but not texting me" and then very early on would get really jealous of me liking other girls pictures. Early on when we were just in the tslking stages and after the first time we hung out I caught her texting and sending sexual texts to a 42 man she met online. She said he gave her the attention she wanted and admitted its probably a low self esteem issue with her. She seems kinda screwed but for some damn reason I miss her. Which is so weird. Cause I've been with some very high quality great women with great jobs, better looking than this girl, smarter, better body, everything and this ones still the hardest one to get over

 

[fastlife]

I looked it up. Hard to tell if that's her. She was really insecure. Just The day before things went south between us she saw me on social media and texts me "why are you liking pics but not texting me" and then very early on would get really jealous of me liking other girls pictures. Early on when we were just in the tslking stages and after the first time we hung out I caught her texting and sending sexual texts to a 42 man she met online. She said he gave her the attention she wanted and admitted its probably a low self esteem issue with her. She seems kinda screwed but for some damn reason I miss her. Which is so weird. Cause I've been with some very high quality great women with great jobs, better looking than this girl, smarter, better body, everything and this ones still the hardest one to get over

That's her . I promise you it's not worth it. You might have to learn for yourself to really understand what any guy who's spun tires with a BPD for any length of time will parrot back to you--but do whatever you need to do to get as far away from her as possible.

 

[MG7592]

That's her . I promise you it's not worth it. You might have to learn for yourself to really understand what any guy who's spun tires with a BPD for any length of time will parrot back to you--but do whatever you need to do to get as far away from her as possible.

yeah I don't know. It's weird cause I wouldn't take her back, I'm like 90% sure, cause I don't want to dive into an already made family, rather have my own kids and avoid the baby daddy drama and I don't like how she's still so so close with his entire side of the family. Didn't get to know her well enough but I could see her being pretty crazy.

 

[MG7592]

That's her . I promise you it's not worth it. You might have to learn for yourself to really understand what any guy who's spun tires with a BPD for any length of time will parrot back to you--but do whatever you need to do to get as far away from her as possible.

Crazy thing is too man, this girl is trash. Never Somethjng I'd go after, despite her face, she's beautiful in the face but that's no good reason to stay with a girl.

-19 year old single mom (usually kids are a no go for me but this time for some reason I just went with it
- smokes weed, cigs on weekends when she drinks
- drinks a lot
- graduated (barely) high school with extremely bad grades, probably no college will take her but she doesn't go to school for anything anyways and don't know if she plans on it
- doesn't workout or eat well just doesn't care for he body much even though she looks fine, just average but nice tits.
- horrible spending habits, spends all her money on make up, shows, clothes, purses.


I think I fell for her cause I'm thinking with my ****

 

[BrainDamage92]

Crazy thing is too man, this girl is trash. Never Somethjng I'd go after, despite her face, she's beautiful in the face but that's no good reason to stay with a girl.

-19 year old single mom (usually kids are a no go for me but this time for some reason I just went with it
- smokes weed, cigs on weekends when she drinks
- drinks a lot
- graduated (barely) high school with extremely bad grades, probably no college will take her but she doesn't go to school for anything anyways and don't know if she plans on it
- doesn't workout or eat well just doesn't care for he body much even though she looks fine, just average but nice tits.
- horrible spending habits, spends all her money on make up, shows, clothes, purses.


I think I fell for her cause I'm thinking with my ****

and you fell in love with that woman? hahah the absolute madman gl bro

 

[dude99]

Yeah true that's why I'm not contacting her at all. Well mainly cause she never texted me back even though she snapchatted me a bunch.

She said she originally told herself she'd not date anyone or be with anyone for a while after they broke up, but she met me and did not expect things to go the way it did with us she said. But she went with it and now I think she realizes she's not emotionally ready for that and just isn't over it yet. It's either that or she was actually completely serious about the distance thing. Which I don't think she was cause we were doing it just fine and saw each other 3 weekends in a row. Cause after that distance excuse she said well yeah but I'm actually really scared to be in a relationship this soon and we moved so fast and I can't rush things, which could be completely true too

I know, everything screams rebound. The sex right off the bat, was an extremely physical and sexual fling we had going which went well for us and we're both just very sexual and matching sex drives. But also all the face timing, 3 hour phone calls, and all that just not even 1 month from the first time we hung out.

But back to the main question, do they ever come back when they're finally ready??

You were used to fill a void and validate her ego after she split with her ex. She persued him the entire time she was seeing you but he had her on no contact. That is why she was under your feet so much. The instant he showed interest again she was gone and you were out

Do not reply to her snap chats. Do not answer her texts. Do not return phone calls. Should she catch you and you answer the phone say"sorry love can't talk now I'm just picking up my date now so i have to go.

Next her. Move on. Do not waste anymore time on this one.

 

[dude99]

So confusing damnit lol. Idk I might just hit her up in 4 weeks wishing her son happy birthday and along with a little message about me doing something that reminded me of her and see how she respond s

Don't.