"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Rebooting my accountability log

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After a long month and a half I finally got my ass out there and got another gym membership. It feels good to be back. My numbers are about the same as where I left off, so thankfully, not much progress was lost.

In the "time off" I was doing P90x 3-4 times a week. I gotta say, I've never done any recreational workout that comes remotely close to the difficulty of the p90x plyometrics dvd. Hats off to anyone who has completed the full 90 days.

I'm glad to be back to lifting...even though the p90x was kicking my ass, I never felt that "I can take over the world" attitude that I get after a good lift.

I'll be posting my numbers and routine in this thread for anyone that is interested, hopefully all you guys can throw a few suggestions my way. Well, enough rambling...

Legs and back today, kept it short and sweet for the first time back

SQUATS: 3 sets
8 reps @ 115
8 reps @ 115
9 reps @ 120

DEADLIFTS: 3 sets (attempted a fourth but couldn't handle the weight increase)
8 reps @ 135
8 reps @ 135
8 reps @ 135
2 reps @ 155 then failure

SEATED ROWS:I don't trust this machine, says I'm doing 170, I don't buy it
12 reps @ 150
12 reps @ 160
12 reps @ 170

PULL UP: did pyramids with a friend
(1x1, 1x2, 1x3,1x4,1x5,1x4,1x3,1x2,1x1) added 5lbs on belt


That was it for today. It felt amazing to be back! O ya, I had a fat protein shake and steak+veggie kebabs post workout. Later :rockon:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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im bout to head to the gym, just wanted to update this....forgot to post my last workout.

INCLINE BENCH
8 reps @ 110
8 reps @ 115
8 reps @ 115

PULL UP PYRAMID (same as above with 5lb belt)

BENCH
8 reps @ 115
8 reps @ 125
8 reps @ 130

SEATED ROW:
12 @ 150
12 @ 160
12 @ 170

DIPS - couldn't do these worth a damn...got 6 in then failed

finished up with an ab workout.

My shoulder really started hurting today, not sure which workout did it. When I do forward shoulder circles, or lateral raises I really feel it. I was planning on doing legs and shoulders today, but I'm going to let it rest and do some curls or something instead. If anyone has any ideas what may have caused this, how long I should rest it, and how to prevent in the future just let me know.
 

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SQUATS:
8 reps @ 120
8 reps @ 125
8 reps @ 130

DEADLIFTS:
8 reps @ 145
8 reps @ 145
8 reps @ 145

skipped OVERHEAD PRESS (hurt shoulder)

CURLS:
3 sets of 8 reps each arm w/ 30 lb db's

Finished up with abs

Post workout shake:
1 cup skim milk
1/2 banana
1 tablespoon peanut butter
1/2 cup raw oatmeal
2 scoops ON vanilla whey
 

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two updates for today....I'm including my workout from last friday that I forgot to put up along with the workout I just finished.

Friday:

BENCH:
8 reps @ 130
8 reps @ 135
8 reps @ 135

INCLINE BENCH:
8 reps @ 105
8 reps @ 105
8 reps @ 105

PULL UPS: same pyramid as before with 5lb belt

SEATED ROWS: same sh!tty machine
12 reps @ 160
12 reps @ 170
11 reps @ 170
 

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I think I'm finally getting my stabilizer muscles in my legs built up, coming up from a squat was much smoother, I didnt feel like my legs were trying to jerk around.

SQUATS:
8 REPS @ 125
8 REPS @ 135
8 REPS @ 135

OVERHEAD PRESS:
8 reps @ 75
8 reps @ 75
8 reps @ 75

DEADLIFT:
8 reps @ 155
8 reps @ 155
10 reps @ 145

Finished up with some abs.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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BENCH:
8 reps @ 135
8 reps @ 140
7 reps @ 140

WIDE GRIP PULL UPS:
3x7 bodyweight

INCLINE BENCH
8 reps @ 100
8 reps @ 105
8 reps @ 105

LAT PULL DOWN:
3x8 @ 120

DIPS:
3x6 @ body weight

PENDLAY ROW:
10 reps @ 90
8 reps @ 95
8 reps @ 95

If anyone is viewing, I'd love some suggestions on good lifts so I can mix things up, or anything else I should know. Thanks!
 

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For whatever reason today's workout was a real b!tch. In between every set I felt exhausted and considered going home, glad I finished though...hopefully during next Thursday's lift I'll feel recharged

SQUATS:
3x8 @ 140

OVERHEAD PRESS:
3x8 @ 80

DEADLIFT:
2x8 @ 155
1x10 @ 155

Ab workout to finish up the day...ready for a nice long sleep
 

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I fell off track for about a week and half, but finally got back to the gym today. My diet really went to sh!t and my stomach is even more flabby than before, but I don't want to start cutting yet. I'm still just below 180lbs at 6'1'', so I don't think I'm quite where I want to be for when I cut.

I managed to maintain all of my stats in the my bad weeks (I still went to the gym occasionally, just wasn't progressing), so I managed to throw up a couple PR's today, which is really motivating.

SQUATS:
1x8 @ 135
2x8 @ 145

OVERHEAD PRESS:
1x8 @ 85
1x8 @ 75
1x7 @ 75

DEADLIFT:
1x10 @ 155
1x8 @ 165 form started to slip here
1x9 @ 155

I'm getting my wisdom teeth out on Friday, does anyone know how long I should wait before lifting again?
 

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It's been a while since I've updated but the progress has been great in the last month. I've been switching up the routine almost daily now, and I started adding in drop sets on a few of the workouts, I highly suggest it.

Deadlifts:
3x8 @ 220

Bench:
3x8 @ 140

Squat 3x8 @ 160

I've been using a deadlift hexbar (link below) and I was able to add 30lbs right off the bat.

http://www.bayoufitness.com/body-so...2&zmap=OTB50&gclid=CMzz0Z7IuqsCFQoZQgodmRlLcw

I still have a pretty solid gut when I sit down but my posture doesn't really help that out. I'll try to post updates more often, hopefully every workout.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Been slacking a bit...only been to the gym about 3-4 times in the last 2 weeks. Also went on a poor eating binge for 2 days and I was really paying for it at the gym yesterday...I felt like sh!t.

I'm about to go do some low intensity cardio. I've really put on quite a gut and it's starting to bother me. I'm not quite where I want to be yet musclewise, but I'd rather have less muscle and be lean than be fat. Does anyone know if recomping is actually possible?
 
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