"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Reassessment of self worth

Tekniq

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Recognition of self worth is a major trend that occurs on these forums and many others, the role of the alpha male has never been instilled in the majority of the guys who post here and so they will never naturally understand why exactly they are better than some other guy or better than some chick who they claim to have feelings for. The teachings and values that are instilled here are all well and good but they give off one major flaw.

That flaw is that when the average AFC comes here gains all of this knowledge starts using it in the field and then one day gets shut down by some muscle bound natural alpha he will not have any clue what do, beyond of course some piss poor routines that he will not remember when it comes time. This is because everything that is being taught here is only information that can be used to blanket the real issues at hand, and not actually fix anything, its like sweeping the dust under the carpet instead of actually putting it in the trash can where it belongs. Inherently these guys will just memorize lines to make it seem as if they are really the alpha in the situation and to make it seem as if they are in control, but in reality everyone can see past their façade and into their short comings. The problem is that these guys have never been instilled a value that they are better than everyone else, they are never shown that they should stick up for themselves when their value is put into question and that they never come to realize that they have their own reality that they need to seize. These same guys are never correctly let through the door despite people like us showing them it. Personally I have been raised to be proud of myself in every aspect, and even when people tell me that I cannot do something or achieve something that personally I know I can I tell them to fvck off and offer them a glance into my own reality if that doesn’t work.

There needs to be some new sort of knowledge base that will basically go back in time and replace all of those negative teachings that have cause the road to AFChood to be rough, why is it that we cannot breed PUAs from the start or at least try and fix the mistakes and misconceptions of generations past. Overall there needs to be a major reassessment of self worth and self value in correlation with the whole natural aspect of male dominance. Curious to hear what you all think on the matters.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
I don't think so, pal.

Tekniq said:
That flaw is that when the average AFC comes here gains all of this knowledge starts using it in the field and then one day gets shut down by some muscle bound natural alpha he will not have any clue what do, beyond of course some piss poor routines that he will not remember when it comes time. This is because everything that is being taught here is only information that can be used to blanket the real issues at hand, and not actually fix anything, its like sweeping the dust under the carpet instead of actually putting it in the trash can where it belongs.
This is NOT true, at all. We do not cover our flawed selves with perfect personas. It's called self-improvement, and those of us that do not want to use techniques and tricks to pull women, we actually spend alot of our time working to improve ourselves and our lives. I think that you have only caught a small glimpse of this community. Look further in, and find the quality posts, the quality tips, the quality people. You'll be amazed at what and who you find if you look closer.
Have fun!:)
 

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I have to agree with Silver.

The OP doesn't is making a major generalization about this site. Tricks and routines aren't a big component here.
 
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SilverSonnet said:
This is NOT true, at all. We do not cover our flawed selves with perfect personas. It's called self-improvement, and those of us that do not want to use techniques and tricks to pull women, we actually spend alot of our time working to improve ourselves and our lives. I think that you have only caught a small glimpse of this community. Look further in, and find the quality posts, the quality tips, the quality people. You'll be amazed at what and who you find if you look closer.
Have fun!:)
To play devil's advocate, doesn't the idea of self-improvement come from the image of oneself as not being good enough?
 

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I'm sick of posts like this. I mean this guy might have a point, if this were a Mystery Method forum. Have you read the DJ Bible? From my memory the many times I've read it I've found that it is mostly about mindset and destroying AFC beliefs, how to act rather than receiting lines. Seriosuly how many people on here actually use canned lines? I know we are part of the seduction community but there is a big differance between PUA and DJ.

I know there are some guys here running game and wanting to be PUAs and there is nothing wrong with that, it's there choice. But for the most part that is definately not how a view this site and most of the people here.

You may have a point though. What in your opinion is the best way to raise your self worth?

To play devil's advocate, doesn't the idea of self-improvement come from the image of oneself as not being good enough?
Yes that was the big problem for me for a long time. Now I've learned to seperate myself from my life's situation. First you have too accept yourself completely as you are right now, but still move towards goals you want to achieve.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SinJester said:
I'm sick of posts like this. I mean this guy might have a point, if this were a Mystery Method forum. Have you read the DJ Bible? From my memory the many times I've read it I've found that it is mostly about mindset and destroying AFC beliefs, how to act rather than receiting lines. Seriosuly how many people on here actually use canned lines? I know we are part of the seduction community but there is a big differance between PUA and DJ.

I know there are some guys here running game and wanting to be PUAs and there is nothing wrong with that, it's there choice. But for the most part that is definately not how a view this site and most of the people here.

You may have a point though. What in your opinion is the best way to raise your self worth?



Yes that was the big problem for me for a long time. Now I've learned to seperate myself from my life's situation. First you have too accept yourself completely as you are right now, but still move towards goals you want to achieve.
I was actually aiming to illustrate the DJ beliefs in comparison to the PUA beliefs and methodology; by saying that canned material will get you nowhere in real life situation, and that having a sense of self worth and pride will be the ultimate tool that you should use in these situations. I was under the impression that that is what is being taught here in comparison to the more robotic mystery method. I'm sure my general meaning was just left a little too open to interpretation if i am getting the completely different replies i was expecting. Personally i think should be able to raise internal self worth are simple exercises that would result you being more comfortable in your own skin and having that confidence spread unto others, but most importantly so that unlike mystery method it is not a false confidence that no one can see through. Not entirely sure as to what these could really be but i think i will formulate some sort of self help thing on the topic in a much later time. Lastly i was making an observation based on the majority of posts that i have been reading for months, but only now have i made an account, and yes i have read the bible and pook's ebook, so i am sure i have a good grasp on the ideas of being a DJ.
 

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Ok thanks in that case I agree with you wholeheartedly.

I just think that your opening post comes accross differently then you meant it to, as you can see from my reply.

:)
 
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