"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Reasons for not having a serious relationship

Jizz

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So me and this gal were getting on quite well, we live quite far away and weve met once, so most of our chatting has been on phone/msn/texting

So tonite i was basically getting serious with her, telling her i wanted an honest answer does she wanna meet up etc

she said she didnt feel comfterable coming down on her own (last time we met was with her friends) so we should just leave it

i said well no worries, but just want you to know that your not some gal i wanna hook up with, i actually like you

she said she didnt wanna ruin a friendship with a relationship that wouldnt work because of distance

she said it would be fun for one day but thats it

i asked if distance was the only reason she said

No its because of (our mutual friend) (because basically shes the reason we met and she likes me 2), because its the hardest year of her life (exams and last yr at skool) because she doesnt want another serious relationship after the last one (bad break up) but distance is the main one

so basically it doesnt sound like it was anything to do with me but if a gal gave you any or all 4 of these reasons as a reason why she doesnt want a serious relationship what would you think?

cheers
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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lol

Get your flame-proof suit on. This is gonna hurt.

You should turn around and walk away. She doesn't want to be with you. I'm not gonna explain why, someone elese can do that but the reasons are pretty obvious.
 

mrRuckus

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Originally posted by Jizz
if a gal gave you any or all 4 of these reasons as a reason why she doesnt want a serious relationship what would you think?

cheers

i'd think i'm glad i wore skivvies under my kilt today because she's blowing smoke up it.
 

nishbuk

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Your out man. So far out it's not even funny. She's not attracted to you, and she does not want to have sex with you. What she said is as clear as the sun from apollo 13. Move on, guy. There is nothing left that you can do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonJuanMonk

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Please don't post anymore Jizz, your posts suck ass royally. Go read the DJ Bible, jerk off to some porn, but don't talk about your life here ever again.
 
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