Reasonable physical escalation on a first date at a table?

[Murk]

Bro your obv from the UK - go to adultwork.com and find a hot romanian chick and pay £40 to **** her for 30 mins.

Do that this weekend.

Then do it again during the week.

£80 down you will hit the weekend go to to a club and I assure you, you will **** a civilian

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Dude, don't explain yourself just tell your story, ppl in here will listen.

Haha yeah it was a bit of a novel. Wanted to give the full story though, it's easy with the abridged version to sound like you're just whining rather than being earnest about your past.

And if I didn't mention it, I would feel hypocritical giving advice to fellas on here. No one likes that dude who answers questions online like he's the world's most badass playa while actually he's eating Cheetos alone in a basement (I'm nowhere near being that guy, but you know what I mean...!)

Bro your obv from the UK - go to adultwork.com and find a hot romanian chick and pay £40 to **** her for 30 mins.

Do that this weekend.

Then do it again during the week.

£80 down you will hit the weekend go to to a club and I assure you, you will **** a civilian

I've thought about it but I feel like paying for it would just be lame. Waiting ten years just to get a mediocre bj from a hooker sounds like a hefty anti-climax. I would have been far better off f*cking some of the party girls I met years before, so I'd feel crap for saying no to them but yes to a hooker.

I'd rather the satisfaction of succeeding like a man and nailing a girl I have some attraction to after I ace a date, you know?

Not that I don't appreciate the advice I just think paying for it is similar to sitting around jerking to phub, it's not really helping me get that real life confidence.

 

[fanatic22]

Do not jerk off again until you’ve had sex. Also, fvck a bunch of 6s till you’re confident enough to not get soft from the nerves when you’re faced with an 8.

Oh, and some may disagree, but if you tell a chick you’re a virgin she’ll probably be more down to fvck you. In high school I had female friends offering to take my virginity (I had a sexless gf at the time so I turned them down sadly.) The ONS who took my virginity was actually giddy about it. Plus she won’t be shocked when you’re bad in bed so you won’t be nervous.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Just think outside the box and you'll get in it. Mix it up, try "active" stuff like a pool hall/billards or even darts. Relax have a nice chat/drink and build rapport. Then challenge them to a game. Darts you can make fun of their stance or how they throw it. A lot of broads stand square to a dart board, let them play like that for awhile then get in close help them relax/correct their stance. Slowly build up flirt/teasing..

If you are going to eat sit at the bar, with her sitting right next to you. I personally don't do first dinner dates, probably been 5yrs. Like others have mentioned have a game plan with a close by second option if it seems to be going well. Marmel nailed it with boldness, but you have build up to it tho.

Woman can be playful fun creates and a lot of the times they will match your mood. Fun/flirty/touchy. Their chameleons in the moment, get them in the moment.

When a broad has drinks and then stuffs her face, guess what she's fücking bloated and stuffed. All the shït usually doesn't = horny.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Went back to the venue of my last date for a drink this afternoon and noticed when I checked out the tables that I picked literally the worst one in the whole place to hang with that girl, lol.

All the others are cosy and intimate with your knees pretty much touching, the one table I picked had an abomination of a sofa for one seat and you're both sat 20 feet away from each other...so that was probably my first mistake.

Oh, and some may disagree, but if you tell a chick you’re a virgin she’ll probably be more down to fvck you. In high school I had female friends offering to take my virginity (I had a sexless gf at the time so I turned them down sadly.) The ONS who took my virginity was actually giddy about it. Plus she won’t be shocked when you’re bad in bed so you won’t be nervous.

Yeah I've never told any girls I'm interested in, only one female friend. She spends all her time sending me sex tips and "OMGYes" links, which I kind of appreciate but it seems redundant when I'm not actually getting to anyone's bedroom anyway.

Can't really imagine what would happen if I told a girl I like. Maybe they'd give me more leeway for physical intimacy on the first date/get turned on, but I think more likely they'd think "Christ this guy sounds desperate, why is he telling me that so early?"

Maybe I'll try it though, would be interesting to see what reaction I get

Yeah I'm going to try and find my next brace of plates (the cutlery rack has been emptied), work on the tips you gents have given me and report back soon.