"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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reason why there are so many AFCs.

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I think the best way to deal with it is just to laugh, because its not going away any time soon. You gotta remember half the audience that listens to these songs are WOMEN. Its basic marketing. Say your target market for a hip hop album is young people, ages 16-24. You don't want to lose half your target market, so you appeal to both sexes. Therefore, these artists sell out and produce/write tracks that are AFC.

If you like hip hop and can't stand the stuff today (like me) you can't go wrong with Tupac. He was the ultimate alpha male, however he showed respect for the women who really mattered in his life, like his mom. One of his best lines was "I'd rather die like a man than live like a coward."
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Re: Re:

Originally posted by A-Unit
Why do people worry about the circumstances around them and learn how to deal with them and bend them to their will?

In a similar example...though quite extravagant, tom Hanks was stranded on an island in Castway and managed to survive, if we're using cliche movie examples.

The man who gets along in life deals with his circumstances and bends them to his will, he does not grumble about how things should be, that's idealist. He deals with the situation as is and makes what can be made of it. Frankly, I'd rather see things tough, and become tough, then make things easy and weak, and become weak.



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Yes....True....

Only reason why rappers make all these soft songs are cause women buy more CD's then men do...Women will pay full price for one song on a CD...lol...
 

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You guys all make some good points.. The majority of todays rap and r&b music straight up promotes AFC Behavior. People think hip hop culture promotes the DJ Mentality but that is so wrong. Listen to some newer songs by Jay-Z, Ludacris, Nelly, and many other artists and they talk about buyin their woman jewlery, clothes and taking her on shopping sprees. While they may be more hardcore than r&B singers, the message still promotes AFC behavior in that u have to buy a woman stuff to keep her. Straight up BS. However, there are a few R&B songs out there that do not promote AFC behavior and talk bout how to make luv with a woman. Examples are "Signs of Love Makin", "I wanna Go There", and many other songs from the Tyrese album "I Wanna Go there". Heck, thats probably why Tyrese is one of my most fav. singers cause he actually does not promote AFC behavior in most of his songs.
 

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Re: ...

Originally posted by DevanE
Hmmm, Im gonna have to kinda agree and disagree, I myself watch Anime, and what someone talked about them is very true, HOWEVER, you have to be able to block sh** like that out, I mean comeon, you honestly cannot get influenced by sh** like that...I have listened to alot of the AFC songs lately, and they are pretty catchy BUT that doesn't mean Im gonna be treatin females like that hell no, it all kinda depends on your mindframe and how much you can control it...I don't even listen to any of the AFC sh**, but I do listen to Alicia Keys...if that is considered AFCish, then AFCish me up...

Holla:D
theres only so much you can block out. after constently being entertained by AFCish stuff (movies/music) you cant help it but get influenced. Even the biggest pimp in the world will get brainwashed if he listened to Usher all day.
 

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Re: ...

Originally posted by DevanE
Hmmm, Im gonna have to kinda agree and disagree, I myself watch Anime, and what someone talked about them is very true, HOWEVER, you have to be able to block sh** like that out, I mean comeon, you honestly cannot get influenced by sh** like that...I have listened to alot of the AFC songs lately, and they are pretty catchy BUT that doesn't mean Im gonna be treatin females like that hell no, it all kinda depends on your mindframe and how much you can control it...I don't even listen to any of the AFC sh**, but I do listen to Alicia Keys...if that is considered AFCish, then AFCish me up...

Holla:D
I agree, I mean the R&B **** is catchy cuz you can sing along wit it. Although it promotes AFC behavior, it does not mean you can't listen to it. I listen to rap, R&B, Rock, Old School Metal (Metallica, MegaDeath), Rock & Roll....all that **** is cool wit me. The R&B is O.K. as long as nobody listens to it for long periods of time.
(haha Purple Haze listening to Usher all day...I do think that the big Snoop D-O-Double Gizzle could endure it though.)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Listen to your natural gag reflex when you hear those songs. It'll never fail.
 

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Re: ...

Originally posted by DevanE
Hmmm, Im gonna have to kinda agree and disagree, I myself watch Anime, and what someone talked about them is very true, HOWEVER, you have to be able to block sh** like that out, I mean comeon, you honestly cannot get influenced by sh** like that...I have listened to alot of the AFC songs lately, and they are pretty catchy BUT that doesn't mean Im gonna be treatin females like that hell no, it all kinda depends on your mindframe and how much you can control it...I don't even listen to any of the AFC sh**, but I do listen to Alicia Keys...if that is considered AFCish, then AFCish me up...

Holla:D
Since our eyes are trained to see this, we notice and filter this out. But how about the remainder 99% of the population who don't recognize the correlation in this music to AFCism.
 

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Re: Re: Re:

Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
Yes....True....

Only reason why rappers make all these soft songs are cause women buy more CD's then men do...Women will pay full price for one song on a CD...lol...
You know what? I think I can agree 100% with that. The last girl I dated just LOVES Boyz to Men and to be honest I hated listening to them because it was just too damn emotional. It was nice to listen to them when she was in my arms but not when I'm alone. I think all these love songs were meant for females to listen to.

I've quit listening to the radio and I just listen to Business Success CD's and my David DeAngelo CD's. I used to listen to talk radio but what's the point of listening to Ads and political topics all the time? I just wanna be successful in life and successful with women.
 

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In new school hip hop they almost never talk bout being the nice guy. Maybe in R&B once in awhile but rap and crunk just talk bout fcking *****es and hoes.
Sigh.

I listen to more old school rap. Nowadays after pac died every rapper thinks that in order for their songs to sell they got to talk about killing and fcking hoes.
 
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