Here. I'll paint you a picture of how this is supposed to work, from cold approach to banging:
You: "Hi. My name is -------."
Her: "Hello."
You: "This is the part where you tell me your name. If you don't, I'm going to have to assume that it's Gertrude. You and I both know that it isn't, so you may as well come clean."
Her: *giggle* "My name is -------."
You: "Uggh. I think I like Gertrude better." *Sly smile*
"Anyway ------, the reason I'm talking to you is because my buddy asked me to. *Point towards wingman* See he's kind of a shy person, but a real sweet guy. Good people. Anywho, he wanted me to ask you if you think I'm good looking. Out of all the people in the area, we decided that your opinion matters most"
Her: *Hopefully giggling. Kind of a toss up, but if you have congruent C&F tone and body language, this should surprise her and make her smile* "Sure."
You: Faaaan-tastic! Now, the fact that I'm good looking... It's no secret. My momma knew it, my teachers knew it, and you know it. The reason my buddy *gesture to wingman* wanted me to ask you this, is because we wanted to test your honesty.
Her: Test my honesty?
You: Yes. Honesty is a big deal to my buddy *gesture to wingman* and he wanted to make sure that you were the right kind of person before he asked you.
Her: Asked me what?
You: My buddy *gesture towards wingman* wanted me to ask you if you like to have fun. You know... Good times. Lolly-Jollies and whatnot
Her: Sure
You: Good! Then it's decided!
Her: What?
You: *scratch the back of your head. This is your wingmans signal to send you a text message. Start talking until it gets there* Well, ------, you are an honest, fun-loving girl. Me? I'm a smart, funny, good-looking guy. The kind of guy thats fun to be around. Since you've been kind enough to entertain my friends curiosity, It's only right that I--- (Text message should be going off by now) Excuse me. Oh. Wow, uh listen it was nice talking to you ------, but I've really got to go. Too bad you don't have a phone, -------
Her: I do have a phone
You: Nuuuuh uuuuuh
Her: Yes I do! *Probably pulling her phone out to prove it*
You: Well, ----- too bad you don't know your own number
Her: Yes I do!
You: Oh yeah? What is it then, smarty pants?
Her: (If she has tolerated your games so far, she is going to give you her phone number)
THREE DAYS LATER. BETWEEN 6 P.M. and 9 P.M.
Call her.
Her: Hello
You: Hello. It's me -------, from the ------.
Her: Oh, hey! How are you?
You: I'm good. Me and some friends just got back from *say something exciting and adventurous. Bonus points if its true*
Her: Oh, cool! How did that go?
You: Went great. Anyway, I'm calling about business.
Her: What kind of business?
You: Well, ------, like I was saying the other day you like having fun, and I know how to have fun. So, I figured maybe we could go do something fun together
Her: What does that have to do with business
You: Absolutely nothing. But thats in the past. I'm a here and now type of guy. So now, I'm wondering if you would rather have fun Friday night or Saturday night.
Her: Well what did you have in mind?
You: I'll get to that in a second. Really, it depends on which night you'd rather hang out.
Her: (picks a night)
You: Good choice, ------. On (whichever night she picked) night, there is a (something exciting and interesting) going on. It starts at (whenever the event starts). Where do you want me to meet you at?
Her: (Gives a location)
You: Good. I'll see you there.
WHICHEVER NIGHT SHE PICKED
Be ****y/funny, and get a feel for the girl. If you decide you'd like to bang her, slowly implement light kino (touch the small of her back as you go through doors, put your had on her arm when you say something to her that you want her to hear, ect.). At this point, you will get an idea of how she is reacting to your advances, and if she is acting favorably, or even reciprocating, you are in the clear. Anyway, after a while, when you sense that the evening is reaching it's peak and she is having a lot of fun, tell her it's getting late and you have something important to do in the morning. But tell her that you had fun, and wanted to know if we could do it again some time. If she is having a good time, she will tell you yes. Tell her that you've got to look at your calender, because your not sure which day ------(something interesting/deep/whatever) is happening, but that you will give her a call.
At this point, you should have an idea of some of her likes and dislikes. Find something that shed be interested in. A picture. A poem. Whatever, and put it on display in your bedroom. It will pay off in a while.
Wait a few days, call her up, set up another date.
This time, make the date something a little more private. Like a walk or whatever. Talk about the previous date, and see if she doesn't talk about it being fun. This instantly puts a good feeling in her head. Talk about all kinds of things, make observational jokes about your surroundings. Tease her a little bit, and use kino when the vibes are right. If you are doing good, she should reciprocate the kino, and this is your clue that you should kiss her at the end of the night. Make it a good kiss, but don't try to drag it out into some sort of crazy make out session ---- UNLESS SHE TRIES TO. (In that case, you won't need any of the advice beyond this point) Anyway, like the last date, make sure that you are the one who says its getting late. Tell her this time to give YOU a call (a good practice). If she is in to you, she will.
When she does call you....
Set up another date. Evening. Go for a walk again at some point, and go through the same paces as the second date, but with heavier kino. If she welcomed a kiss last time, she is going to be OK with, and hopefully reciprocating things like putting your hand on the small of her back while you walk. Jokes and teasing most of the night, and if you get her somewhere secluded, kiss her again. This time get a feel for things. That means grabbing thighs, kissing neck, and nibbling on earlobes. Squeezing her tight. That sort of thing. Make sure you get this going before it gets too late, and ask her if shes hungry/wants to see a movie/whatever. The main thing is to ask her if she wants to do something that you can accommodate at your place. When she says yes, suggest to go to your place and do that thing.
When you get to your place, have a few drinks, and start doing whatever it was you were going to do. Implement some heavy kino, move on to kissing and groping, and with any luck, you'll be knocking boots in no time flat.
Hope that makes things easier on you
