reason i have trouble with women is b/c i don't have a POWER job

[joe45]

well previously i have been doing odd jobs like driver, lot attendant, cashier...etc and now i have a intern doing a entry level tech support job which i did go to school for.

i never bought a girl home to my folks before, but my problem is much more . i grew up very shy and quiete and sheltered up alot. i came from a very very strict chinese family. i was expected to come home right after school, and wasn;t even allowed to hang out after school or on weekend. i even been told by 2 ppl a co worker i worked with pretty close and a classmate who i talked to with a lot -both about dating and girls and they both said i had aspergers sydrome. taht was the reason why i had so much trouble dating and getting a gf and it had nothing to do with myself not having a car or access to one.

well my chinese immirgrant old fashioned mom said that a reason girls won;t take me seriously or want to date me or have me as a bf is b/c i don't have a POWER JOB. POWER JOB=making lot of money , and the top dog in the position. computer engineer in a big company, financial planner in the bank, CGA, CA,-pretty much a prestige job that rolls in the dough

to the girls out there how important is the guys job to you. i mean for sure he needs a job right. but do you care about the position title and what he does --- prestige and how much he makes. i mean how important is this to a guy your seeing.

i mean what happens if your making decent money and yoiu like the job you have. do you really have to push yourself to the top to make more money to gain more woman in your dating life. like do women these days really attracted to men with lot of power in their job.

 

[oakraiderz2]

You have trouble with women because you dont know what to do with women, nor do you know how to interact with them. The idea of you not having a power job as being the culprite of your lack of women in your life is asinine.

 

[Igetit!]

well my chinese immirgrant old fashioned mom said that a reason girls won;t take me seriously or want to date me or have me as a bf is b/c i don't have a POWER JOB. POWER JOB=making lot of money , and the top dog in the position. computer engineer in a big company, financial planner in the bank, CGA, CA,-pretty much a prestige job that rolls in the dough

I have to agree with Oakraiderz2 on this one. This nonsense of havng female trouble because of your job seems like more of a excuse than a legitamite reason for a lack of success. I understand that you mother meant well,but you should never (rarely) listen to women when it comes to advice about dating. They'll unintentionally lead you into the ditch.

to the girls out there how important is the guys job to you. i mean for sure he needs a job right. but do you care about the position title and what he does --- prestige and how much he makes. i mean how important is this to a guy your seeing.

I have a question. This thing your mother said about having a power job,does her husband have one?
Is her husband an ceo of a major company? A engineer or financial planner of a major bank firm?

 

[epicwinner]

I have a question. This thing your mother said about having a power job,does her husband have one?
Is her husband an ceo of a major company? A engineer or financial planner of a major bank firm?

there is no need to attack OP's mother... parents want their kids to do better than themselves

Joe45, I think your mother mentioned Power job because she wants you to have a power job

and it has nothing to do with how well you do with women

as for Aspergers syndrome, although your friends shouldn't judge you like that, you may have displayed certain characteristics that are commonly seen in ppl with AS... such as lack of empathy and poor ability to read ppl's body-language

but don't worry, you can work on them; meet more ppl, be social, do your best at work and the rest will follow

 

[Igetit!]

there is no need to attack OP's mother... parents want their kids to do better than themselves

WHAT??? ATTACK HIS MOTHER? WHERE DO YOU GET THAT FROM?Epicwinner,let's get one thing straight right off the bat: I DID NOT attack his mother. Didn't you read my post?

I understand that your mother meant well,but you should never (rarely) listen to a woman when it comes to advice about dating.

You got me attacking his mother from this?


And as for me asking if his mother's husband has a POWER job,I was simply pointing out to him that women usually unintentionally give men advice about dating that leads them astray because if they were to tell guys what it is that really attracts them to a man,they'd probably be looked down on by society. So instead,they tell the the "politically correct" answer instead of the truth. I've never attacked anybody on this forum. Search through my posts. I challenge you to find one single sentence where I ever attacked another member here.

 

[Ollie]

And as for me asking if his mother's husband has a POWER job,I was simply pointing out to him that women usually unintentionally give men advice about dating that leads them astray because if they were to tell guys what it is that really attracts them to a man,they'd probably be looked down on by society. So instead,they tell the the "politically correct" answer instead of the truth.

This is dead on. And how do women know that you don't have a power job right away? Do you say "Hey how are you? My name's Joe and I have a ****ty job?" I have girls that I've been dating for a few weeks and they have no idea what I do for a living.

 

[epicwinner]

WHAT??? ATTACK HIS MOTHER? WHERE DO YOU GET THAT FROM?Epicwinner,let's get one thing straight right off the bat: I DID NOT attack his mother. Didn't you read my post?
You got me attacking his mother from this?


And as for me asking if his mother's husband has a POWER job,I was simply pointing out to him that women usually unintentionally give men advice about dating that leads them astray because if they were to tell guys what it is that really attracts them to a man,they'd probably be looked down on by society. So instead,they tell the the "politically correct" answer instead of the truth. I've never attacked anybody on this forum. Search through my posts. I challenge you to find one single sentence where I ever attacked another member here.

that is good to know, I know you had no bad intention what-so-ever, but it sounded like it from one phrase where you said;

I have a question. This thing your mother said about having a power job,does her husband have one?
Is her husband an ceo of a major company? A engineer or financial planner of a major bank firm?

without the explanation you just mentioned.

perhaps I misinterpreted your message; no hard feelings... you don't need to prove me anything

other than that, this is great advice

women usually unintentionally give men advice about dating that leads them astray because if they were to tell guys what it is that really attracts them to a man,they'd probably be looked down on by society. So instead,they tell the the "politically correct" answer instead of the truth.

 

[spread_love]

Your job or status has nothing to do with it friend, some of the bummiest dudes get the hottest chicks, I have been unemployed before and ended up in long term relationships, it's all about YOU joe45

 

[Sir Shinra]

You know there's a thread up right now about a homeless guy who games for a living, right?

 

[Stéphane]

Your mom is semi right, getting a power job would make getting a girl much easier, but it's obviously not required.

 

[joe45]

This is dead on. And how do women know that you don't have a power job right away? Do you say "Hey how are you? My name's Joe and I have a ****ty job?" I have girls that I've been dating for a few weeks and they have no idea what I do for a living.

lol so you tell them whatever you want. ahaha one day accountant, next day teacher to another girl

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Your mom is semi right, getting a power job would make getting a girl much easier, but it's obviously not required.

Yeah, I think you have to make a list of resources that you have -- find out what your strengths are.

There are plenty of people on this board that have are working out different things to attract girls into their life. You can review the threads from people that you feel you can identify with and see how they play their game. (i.e. pick up a few threads you feel you can connect with and read their intros - see if you can identify)

Power jobs may just be one way for attraction, but then again, you'd probably get a lot of gold-diggers too - and you don't want those. You have got ALLOT to learn if you feel that way.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Your mom is just trying to motivate you to do well in life, because she wants you to be happy. Her words are out of love, and not realistic advice about how to do well with women. Plenty of powerful men are complete AFCs in regard to women. Tangible accomplishments like money and power may get you more opportunities with women, but it is easy to remain an AFC and simply blow all of those opportunities.

fwiw, I don't even have A job, and I do well with women. I also used to get laid plenty when I delivered pizza. Hell, I even met and later fvcked attractive women...as I delivered them a pizza. Women who mostly just want sex are not worried about what you do for a living.

 

[ZenGodMod]

Your mom tried to connect her desire for you to do well in life to your desire for women. Binding it to one sentence which in turn screwed up your perception.

Power job equals to getting plenty of the wrong kind of women. Mainly gold diggers, manipulators (as you already have a weak character) and free loaders. Stay clear off the search for a power job for now. You won't be able to handle it.

First thing you got to do is to stop swimming in the ocean of negatively for your self. You've out rightly set your world up in which you are going to fail. Now look ahead to a world where you become one of us. Free of doubt, fear and lose. Possible and far more promising.

 

[horaholic]

Sorry, dudes, but having a power job only makes it easy to 'rent' a woman, not GET one. Chicks are not attracted to stuffy corporate shmoes who are at the office for 60+ hours a week. Sure, you can bang your secretaries, but only because they like the validation of being with the 'boss'. Or they just want a raise.

Women only like the financial security. They are attracted to the lifestyle, not the man himself. Thats why corporate wives hire poolboys and gardeners.
Do you want a girfriend, wife, or longterm prostitute?

Of course your mom wants to to make money and be secure. If you were a female, she would be advising you to marry a rich powerful guy, and its undertstandible. Parents want whats best as far as financial, and health, but they tend to overlook the things that make us happy inside, especially 'traditional' families like yours. How genuinely happy are you parents? I have no idea what its like to have a family like that, and correct me if Im wrong, but it doesnt sound like there is a lot of room for true happiness, and passions, or individuality.

Its up to you how you want your life to go. You can be like your parents, and focus yourself on financial security, and find a women who was raised in a similar way as you, (and you may have to go to China to find one, anymore.) and lead the same sort of life as you parents.

You could also break the mold, and pursue you passions however you want, and hopefully find a woman who genuinely loves you, and isnt with you because you provide security, and follow the Eastern culture norms with blind acceptance.

Personally, I see lfestyles like that as 'advanced survival, ' rather than true 'living,' but its your choice, and please take no offense to anything I've said. The culture you grew up in is SO radically different than mine, I could never understand it any more than your parents could understand me.

You need to decide what road you want to follow. Theirs, or yours. Preferably, you should find a nice balance, though.

 

[Energizer]

I believe this thread is on that sh*t forum Loveshack. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t177649/ Joel, Joe45, whatever you call you. A £100k job means sh*t if you ain't got personality, looks and other things women want in a man.

 

[DJOne]

You can get women without a high-paying job. However, for some guys, the responsibility of a demanding profession can be a confidence booster. I know that in general, I'm much more positive and confident when I'm making money and my skills are being put to use.

So, indirectly, it can help you out. Don't think it's the only factor, though.

 

[rushing dude 123]

joe we both know that isn't the case, if that was so u would of not wrote this thread, u actually wrote this thread waiting to get proved wrong so we can tell u that isn't the case, because if not what purpose would u have writing it, because i am sure u knew everyone would not agree to it. The reason u have trouble with women is EXPERIENCE, I know people who sweep the road who bang HB 8-9's all day and i am pretty sure u can't get any less power than that. Go out their and get some experience the more u get the better u get, its that simple.

btw if u want gold diggers, b my guest the perfect way of getting them is money, just so they can steal it.