So i met this girl at college, we just instantly gelled and started spending a lot of time together, in the beginning i didn't think things would escalate but she started telling me she missed me and all kinds of things that raised my attention. then she asked via pm if i was open to experimentation, at this stage i still didnt have feelings for her. and i was like yea sure.
i have a terrible ability to fall for any girl that gives me slight interest and so i started thinking more and more about her and feelings started to develop.
then i went to her house recently. things were a bit awkward until we went out and she started drinking. she started asking me how i feel about her "offer" and i acted cool and somewhat indifferent but willing. the difficulty i had at the time was that she said it would be a future venture. +- 2 weeks away.
we returned to her house and had a good time discussing all kinds of rubbish while she continued drinking and becoming more and more obvious that she had feelings for me.
i swear i could have pulled the trigger a thousand times that night but im so out of practice and scared of the ultra awkwardness of being rejected on the spot. she is also shy and i felt like i didnt want to jump the gun so i did what i thought was playing it cool and just discussed her life and other things.
she made many hints such as "if we were dating i would be like this......" and other things.
in retrospect i feel i blew it not making a physical move the whole night.
then in the early hours of the morning when i was leaving - at the last second she said. do i get a hug and a kiss. i said yip and we kissed - somewhat awkwardly but it ignited even more feelings for her in me.
i hesitated in my car. i had the urge to ring her doorbell and jump in and ravage her hollywood style but my fears got the better of me and i went home.
today i went to visit again and i told her that im wondering what she wants from me. she couldnt speak comfortably about it in person. we chatted and laughed a bit and went for a drive. hug goodbye.
pm time......
she asked me what i felt after we kissed and i said i had felt some feelings for her even before we kissed. but i said its early days and im not sure what i want between us.
she said she dosnt know either and is WORRIED THAT WE WILL RISK OUR FRIENDSHIP.
i said what if we risk losing something better than friendship.
she said we should take it as it comes. and she asked me what i thought of that.
i said spontaneity is probably best.
she said then i should initiate it.
i said....i will.
pretty ****ty generic "what are you doing" pm convo after that and then said goodnight.
where do i stand? am i friend-zoned? completely or just a bit? or was that the final invitation for me to initiate physical intimacy
i feel i got to emotionally involved to quickly and perhaps have been chatting to much and have now expressed that i have feelings for her.
where do i stand?
should i ignore her a bit and see what happens or should i try make an arrangement asap?
i feel like ive stepped over the line and unbalanced the scales and maybe a need to be a bit distant.
im going a bit crazy overthinking all of this :crazy: :crazy:
any advice would realy be appreciated and just ask if you need more info
i have a terrible ability to fall for any girl that gives me slight interest and so i started thinking more and more about her and feelings started to develop.
then i went to her house recently. things were a bit awkward until we went out and she started drinking. she started asking me how i feel about her "offer" and i acted cool and somewhat indifferent but willing. the difficulty i had at the time was that she said it would be a future venture. +- 2 weeks away.
we returned to her house and had a good time discussing all kinds of rubbish while she continued drinking and becoming more and more obvious that she had feelings for me.
i swear i could have pulled the trigger a thousand times that night but im so out of practice and scared of the ultra awkwardness of being rejected on the spot. she is also shy and i felt like i didnt want to jump the gun so i did what i thought was playing it cool and just discussed her life and other things.
she made many hints such as "if we were dating i would be like this......" and other things.
in retrospect i feel i blew it not making a physical move the whole night.
then in the early hours of the morning when i was leaving - at the last second she said. do i get a hug and a kiss. i said yip and we kissed - somewhat awkwardly but it ignited even more feelings for her in me.
i hesitated in my car. i had the urge to ring her doorbell and jump in and ravage her hollywood style but my fears got the better of me and i went home.
today i went to visit again and i told her that im wondering what she wants from me. she couldnt speak comfortably about it in person. we chatted and laughed a bit and went for a drive. hug goodbye.
pm time......
she asked me what i felt after we kissed and i said i had felt some feelings for her even before we kissed. but i said its early days and im not sure what i want between us.
she said she dosnt know either and is WORRIED THAT WE WILL RISK OUR FRIENDSHIP.
i said what if we risk losing something better than friendship.
she said we should take it as it comes. and she asked me what i thought of that.
i said spontaneity is probably best.
she said then i should initiate it.
i said....i will.
pretty ****ty generic "what are you doing" pm convo after that and then said goodnight.
where do i stand? am i friend-zoned? completely or just a bit? or was that the final invitation for me to initiate physical intimacy
i feel i got to emotionally involved to quickly and perhaps have been chatting to much and have now expressed that i have feelings for her.
where do i stand?
should i ignore her a bit and see what happens or should i try make an arrangement asap?
i feel like ive stepped over the line and unbalanced the scales and maybe a need to be a bit distant.
im going a bit crazy overthinking all of this :crazy: :crazy:
any advice would realy be appreciated and just ask if you need more info
