Really wierd situation....did I get played??

[Soprano]

Okay, so this girl is moving here for school soon and we've been talking for quite a while. We're really really liking each other, my game was on fire, c/f on point, everything and we were going to date as soon as she got here in a few weeks.... She's telling me how much she wants me, cant wait to move here and be with me.... She makes it very obvious she wants to be with me when she moves here, its not my mind playing tricks on me and i def know that...

so anyways, while I'm thinking this is a cool chick and I'll be dating her when she moves here, meanwhile a pic of her is added to Facebook from Friday night of her laying with her ex boyfriend in bed getting all touchy and feely...she tells me they used to mess around but didn't on the night the picture was taken....

she says "i think of you as someone i like and want to get to know better, but we're not in a relationship yet until im back there" i turned the tables and said if it was me with my ex in bed all over eachother..would u be cool? and she said she would have to be cool with it until she came back home

I basically tell her i think she was playing me and bsing me....she's upset...i dont reply to msgs.....

She she play me? or did I just overreact and let my pride get the best of me? I definitely did not pick up that she was that kind of girl any time we talked, and I know she has a point by saying we're not dating until she's here, but still, doesn't seem right...

 

[Conquer]

Okay listen up:

Its not what a woman says but what woman does that matters. She may say she loves you and she adores you but she does something completely different. This girl in my opinion has drama and trouble written all over her. You deserve better, so find something better.

 

[Soprano]

Okay listen up:

Its not what a woman says but what woman does that matters. She may say she loves you and she adores you but she does something completely different. This girl in my opinion has drama and trouble written all over her. You deserve better, so find something better.

alright thanks man. im definitely not taking anything sitting down but still i dont know if i've overreacted or what, since technically she does have a point, we're not really dating until she moves back....but still, its so soon, that it feels ****ed up she would do that

 

[Conquer]

No problem. I suppose there is no reason to get upset if there was no commitment. If you do date her do it with caution bro, no need for drama. Best of luck.

 

[shydude]

Put your feelings aside and sleep with her, if she continues to fk around then use her as fck buddy. If she continues to fk around and you like her then talk to her, if she still doesnt listen then dump her, if she comes back begging she wont do it again then its up to you. She might be making you jelious, women these days are retarted and weird as sh1t.

What im basically saying is use her and then dump her.( If she continues to act the way she does now)

You have nothing to loose, but something to experiment.

 

[Soprano]

i just told her off pretty bad lol thank you for the advice sosuave (even though I dont think anyone advised me to tell her off...**** it) and i would appreciate any more advice for the situation since i know she'll be responding soon

 

[shydude]

Good job, if they dont put a smile on your face, tell em all off.

 

[Allurre]

Yep... she's planning to get the best out of her current hometown and the people there before she leaves.

But then again, you guys aren't in a relationship yet, nor are you dating. So this can't be defined as playing on you.

 

[Soprano]

Yep... she's planning to get the best out of her current hometown and the people there before she leaves.

But then again, you guys aren't in a relationship yet, nor are you dating. So this can't be defined as playing on you.

yeah thats the part where im thinkin damn maybe i bugged out a lil too much.....but oh well whats done is done, i still think it was disrespectful

 

[Lust]

Okay, so this girl is moving here for school soon and we've been talking for quite a while. We're really really liking each other, my game was on fire, c/f on point, everything and we were going to date as soon as she got here in a few weeks.... She's telling me how much she wants me, cant wait to move here and be with me.... She makes it very obvious she wants to be with me when she moves here, its not my mind playing tricks on me and i def know that...

so anyways, while I'm thinking this is a cool chick and I'll be dating her when she moves here, meanwhile a pic of her is added to Facebook from Friday night of her laying with her ex boyfriend in bed getting all touchy and feely...she tells me they used to mess around but didn't on the night the picture was taken....

she says "i think of you as someone i like and want to get to know better, but we're not in a relationship yet until im back there" i turned the tables and said if it was me with my ex in bed all over eachother..would u be cool? and she said she would have to be cool with it until she came back home

I basically tell her i think she was playing me and bsing me....she's upset...i dont reply to msgs.....

She she play me? or did I just overreact and let my pride get the best of me? I definitely did not pick up that she was that kind of girl any time we talked, and I know she has a point by saying we're not dating until she's here, but still, doesn't seem right...

You just failed a sh!test, it shows you've let it get to you.

Thing is, the not replying and whatnot is going to make her crave validation, so you're down a few points but get a few back with that. But don't celebrate, that could easily go wrong. Not replying further compounds the fact that she's gotten to you.

If she's not with you yet, she can do whatever she wants. So can you.

You can't get upset when you are only online buddies or whatever, and haven't even spoken face to face yet.