Die Hard said:
with all due respect, this makes me think of the typical AFC who's frustrated with women and the dating game. He gives women all they want, buys them flowers, fullfills all their requests and they still treat him like ****. Go read the first few pages of The Book of Pook and analyze yourself alongside, I'm sure you'll see that you're doing certain things wrong.
I see your points but this is who I am. I am always looking to improve myself overall as a man but I won't let women change the person I am comfortable being. I am a gentleman and I am glad I can look in the mirror and not be ashamed of the man I developed into.
There is the belief out there that all gentleman don't get women. Gentleman is not synonymous with being a pushover. I have a good track record of getting the woman I want and that is all that matters to me. I don't have to get every woman that I want or have a trail of them lined up.
Yes, I am not fund of the dating game. That has never been a secret with me. Trying to juggle different personalities and wondering if I can trust any of them with an already exhausting schedule is...exhausting.
I think what must be understood here that if some men don't buy into another's particular philosophy on dating, it doesn't make them a loser. What's most important is being comfortable with who you are. I think that is an attractive trait within itself. You don't have to agree.
Now, this is something I am sure will turn many of stomachs here. I learned to better myself after ending my relationship with my first fiancee. I began to change after that and I am very proud of the way I have grown since then. I learned after I pushed her out of my life as an immature, selfish a***ole. For a long time afterwards, I was "chasing Amy."
I don't ever like saying this because then I become an arrogant, narcissistic @**. But simply because of what I do for a living, I don't have a problem getting women interested in me. Getting dates is no issue at all. While women are not beating down my door, I can ask many single women out and many will go out with me. I can sell them dreams of living a high profile life and they will eat it up. a couple of months into the dating thing and they are talking about having my baby and bringing up marriage. Now, I am thinking if this woman just looking for a free ride or is she really that crazy about me. I tend to always question it because she was not present through most of my struggle to get where I am today unlike my ex.
So now, I can never have the female that was there from the beginning because I gave her up. I don't want to go around questioning the motives of every date I get and wonder what she really wants from me. I want one person I can trust again. I choose my women very carefully. One mistake during a hot night, can lead to 18 years of misery. Trust me, I just went through it.
Again, I gave up on my dog walker. My interest level dropped after the phone call thing. I am already too cautious and that blew it for her but I will continue to show her my appreciation for what she does for me. She is basically taking care of a person's dog she barely knows. You don't crap on someone who does that for you.
When the cult term "AFC" starts get thrown around in any thread around here, that is usually my cue to exit. Thanks for all of the great insight for those who were committed to helping me out who despite me not fitting into the general scheme of ideas around here. It really did help.
