i messed up a pick up just now. im not sure exactly how. but i think i came on too strong without being direct with my intentions.
this girl kept looking at me as i sat next to her in starbucks. usually when this happens the girl has friends of the same ethnic background me or something and feels some sort of affinity.
she started telling me about her trip to my country and how her best friend was from there too. so i thought bingo this should go well.
however when we started talking about what we do as professions and that she was in investment banking, she started to get a bit stand offish.. i think maybe she thought i wanted a job or to network or something rather than to pick up.
basically it kinda petered out, she isnt the easiest to talk to cos her english isn't that great and i talk fast i have to repeat myself a lot to her.
i think i got too overexcited and she sensed the desperation. i felt it was pointless getting the number or attempting to cos it'll just be an embarassing rejection. im pretty astute now at figuring out whether the girl is interested or not. i didnt go for it.
if i see her around again should i just play it cool and dont divulge in too much convo? i feel as if that if i talk she'll feel im bothering her.
she was just watching something on her computer, some tv show or something and then took her earphones off, i started chatting a bit a 2nd time but then she packed up and left. i reckon she prob just wanted to watch the show and not talk to me, which tells me 2 things, im not charming enough and i was disturbing her.
this girl kept looking at me as i sat next to her in starbucks. usually when this happens the girl has friends of the same ethnic background me or something and feels some sort of affinity.
she started telling me about her trip to my country and how her best friend was from there too. so i thought bingo this should go well.
however when we started talking about what we do as professions and that she was in investment banking, she started to get a bit stand offish.. i think maybe she thought i wanted a job or to network or something rather than to pick up.
basically it kinda petered out, she isnt the easiest to talk to cos her english isn't that great and i talk fast i have to repeat myself a lot to her.
i think i got too overexcited and she sensed the desperation. i felt it was pointless getting the number or attempting to cos it'll just be an embarassing rejection. im pretty astute now at figuring out whether the girl is interested or not. i didnt go for it.
if i see her around again should i just play it cool and dont divulge in too much convo? i feel as if that if i talk she'll feel im bothering her.
she was just watching something on her computer, some tv show or something and then took her earphones off, i started chatting a bit a 2nd time but then she packed up and left. i reckon she prob just wanted to watch the show and not talk to me, which tells me 2 things, im not charming enough and i was disturbing her.
