"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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really confused, does she want another guy?

Recently my girlfriend met a guy at school, normally I don't care because she has a lot of guy friends. Anyway, these two hang out together a lot, flirt a lot, and about a week ago went to some formal dinner thing through a group the guy is involved in. I know they ended up staying at his house and all, and she told me I have nothing to worry about, but I really am, expessally after hearing from one of his drunk friends at the bar that they ended up making out and falling asleep on his bed while watching a movie, that's all this guy said his friend did, and I honestly believe he's telling the truth as he can't keep anything to himself when he's drunk. I do live about an hour away from her school and visit her often, I came to visit the same night they got back and everything seemed fine, do you guys think this is a random thing, should I be really worried? I haven't confronted her about what the guy in the bar said, as I was hoping she'd come clean, but she hasn't, I'm so confused.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Ok I really don't get jealous that much either. My ex had TONS of guy friends and you and I know they all want to fuvk her but it never really got to me. In YOUR case I would definitely start investigating this situation. First of all, like you said its cool if she has guy friends. However WTF is she doing going to formal dinners and spending the night at his house for??? Your girl might consider you #1 but she's definitely not ready to fully commit to you.

How's the status of your relationship lately? Girls who are completely happy in their relationships won't even look to hang out with another guy. However a girl who is ready to abandon ship will. Might want to really think about how well you know your girl bro. Especially if you live an hour away, long distance RARELY works out.



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Sorry to hear this...from what you have posted it seems as if she banged him. There is just no excuse for spending the night with another guy, I'm sorry. When the cat's away, ya know? I'd investigate into this one if I were you, no use wondering 'what if?'...
 

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She gets back from class soon and we're going to lunch before I leave today, so I'll bring it up.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Screw even investigating. I'd drop her right now, no questions asked. Of course you don't have to do this right away. You can just start talking to other girls and slowly drift away from your current gf. I think your current relationship is doomed by the sounds of it.
 

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Yeah, so I told her I wanted her to be completely honest with me as to what happened during the weekend, because I heard something from someone. She told me she did accidently fall asleep with him because they were drinking throughout the night while just talking and watching movies but that's all that happened. So she probably did makeout with him too, she just isn't admitting it. I know her well enough to know she wouldn't have had sex with him this quickly. They've only known each other for about a month or so, I know she wouldn't give it up so quickly, as I knew her for awhile before we started dating.
 

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Does anyone think theres still a chance with her, I really do like her. I tried to everything right too, I gave her enough space, I wasn't jealous, I don't understand. Maybe she took my visiting her here all the time as weakness, I don't know.
 

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wtf

TOM

your gf made out with another guy!

and you want to get back with her??

have some self respect dude, don't let this girl walk all over you. She made out with another guy and is probably lying about it to you too!

stop valuing this girl so much and start valuing YOURSELF! you're worth better treatment then this!

for starters what is she doing going out with other guys and then sleeping at their houses, she should be with you!!

She told me she did accidently fall asleep with him
this is BS, who hell accidentally falls asleep with someone??

you need to NEXT this girl ASAP, even if you did get back with her how could you even trust her again.

BE A MAN
 

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TomN, no girl is worth a dime if she treats you this way. I can't say I understand your situation completely but I can tell you that you could learn salsa and get the finest girl in the club with your moves. You'll have to put effort, a lot of effort. If you're serious, you will succeed! Don't sit there in front of your computer. Ask a hot girl to teach you. You're missing out on tons of girls b/c of 1? Is it worth it? U decide
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I guess this what i don't understand and never did really, why on Earth would a girl need a bunch of guy friends while having a boyfriend? So they were friends before? It's not the same as her being with girlfriends. These guys want something from her! Can you guess what it is? Alas, comes the making out! Who made the first move? Who asked her to his room to watch movies? Who was drinking? :rolleyes:

Next time you will find out that she probably just 'accidentally' got deep penetration from one of her guy friends .. but no biggie right? She's knows you'll accept it because you're a doormat.
 
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