Realistically how many opportunities do you have to meet new women every day?

[Ricky]

I feel the need to create opportunities to meet women. In the course of my daily life now, I don't run into that many new women. I can say that sincerely. I have to go out and create these opportunities.

Work: No real opportunities, all the chicks are married or not what I'm looking for. Plus it's bad to fish at work.

School: Well in my night classes, I'm in a male dominated field. So nothing there either, unless you count the fresh off the boat Chinese girl who I can't communicate with.

I do have a girlfriend, but I would feel better if I got a chance to keep the DJ skills at hand.

How many of you feel like you actually have alot of natural opportunities to meet women? I don't other than maybe at bars and my gym.

 

[Anonymous56]

You can meet a girl waiting in line at a deli dude...anywhere....

There are girls that come into the local bagel place all the time and waiting on line for the food you can strike up a conversation.

 

[Ricky]

Well I do agree. But as a full time work and full time school Don Juan.

I see the following problems

From 8-5 my only pickup time is at lunch break
I do sometimes go to the gym in the morning, but I rarely see girls that I would hit on there, other than maybe the ones who work there. It's a family style gym so it's either older married women or high school girls

Then my night classes are populated by pretty much all guys. So I have to go to the library or bookstore and basically create opportunities.

Which is the whole point of course. I just hate having to go out of my way to make opportunities!

The alternative is of course to say hi to the highly calloused right palm. Although I do have a girlfriend now, I'm just voicing the difficulties many of us have and basically admitting I HATE WORK!

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Countless......

 

[Ricky]

Really I'm jealous, but of course I'm not at college all the time.

I go days without really seeing an eligible bacholerette, unless Im out driving.

So what I'm saying is that I would actually have to plan my schedule out to create more opportunities to meet girls.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Not one day goes by without me seing atleast 10 new girls that are pretty enough to date (HB8+)...

University is a nice thing 30.000 students.

 

[Blurred Elevens]

Dude, you are at school all day...that's a *****-o-rama for crying out loud. Wait until you get OUT of school..hehe

 

[NatureGuy]

I agree with you - realistically, not that
many. You have to get out of your circle
to meet anyone new.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Eh I have like thousands of girls at school, plus that I live at a big campus and there are lots of great clubs etc with lots of girls in the city... Not to mention the malls (which I don't enjoy picking up at)... Not really an issue finding girls....

 

[Ricky]

Yeah, my prob is that I'm not on campus very often since i'm at work most of the day.

Night school doesn't exactly compare, plus I'm pretty drained after a day of work.

But at this point, I'm only making excuses!

The bottomline is that the working DJ must put himself in as many places to meet single girls. That requires going out alot after work to the gym, bookstore, bars, etc.

Next year I'm joining one of those adult sports leagues in town. I hear they are a mecca for chicks.

 

[squirrels]

Being in school/college increases your opportunities by a factor of 10 or so. LOL

I don't get many. I don't consider the gym to be a pick-up place...even though I have considered breaking that rule at times.

Since moving out, I've had to go out places a lot more often, grocery stores, the mall, etc...that adds to the number of opportunities.

 

[TesuqueRed]

It's the "Sales Personality" as I call it.

I have a sister who -- who the fvck knows where she got it -- is a born "sales personality".

You probably see this type of personality in the movies, etc., and having recently joined a long-in-the-tooth start up company, I see a number of sales people who are like my sister, they have a "sales personality."

This type is "always on the make" (an old fashioned phrase) -- someone who steps forward and introduces themselves, who learns peoples name, who finds out what you can offer and what you need, who has "brass balls" so-to-speak, who makes deals and doesn't wait for deals to be made for them.

If you don't have it, you are grateful for those who do, because they take that job off your hands. Someone has to do the dirty work...

But you're not completely off the hook.

At some level, you have to learn how to "put out" and sell yourself. All too often most of us (me included) get by in life by getting jobs from people we know, or stay with a woman who stays with us because both of us don't want to go back out onto the market, etc.

But look at the sales personality types. They can't help it -- they step in first and attempt to create an opportunity for whatever need they have.

And we, to a lesser extent, have to do the same in whatever we want. And so we do -- to the minimum extent possible. The minute we get into a situation that meets our minimum standards, we stop pushing.

So Ricky says "I feel the need to create opportunities to meet women..."

Exactly! Maybe he doesn't have a true sales personality (few of us do -- they're born, not made IMHO..) but, sure, we all have to take something from them and put ourselves out there and create something.

Good post Ricky. You're on the right track, imo.

 

[Ricky]

I like your comments Tesque Red. This hits home because I have the same problem at work, where I actually have to do sales every once in a while.

I still retain alot of that introverted personality!