"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Real talk with my Mother

PapiChulo

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I had a conversation with my mother in which she confessed to a few things after biasing me for so long. She is an attractive woman, I must say. She admitted to liking bad boys in university, but not going out with them. She still thinks of what could have happened if she did, saying that she was smarter than that to hook up with them even though the attraction was there.

Second thing, she admitted to “settling down” with my father because of this: his interest level was a lot higher than hers and she knew she could control him and he would not f*&ck around too much. In other words, she is a manipulative little woman and not afraid to use it, still does. I think my Dad is still oblivious to this even after 26 years of marriage. And I think that’s that imbalance of interest is what kept them together for so long even though he is not an AFC.


Thats how relationships are built.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I kinda think your father may have the frame in this relationship despite what your mother may think.
 

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5string said:
I kinda think your father may have the frame in this relationship despite what your mother may think.

he does actually. He gets jealous easily and any disrespect will have you kicked to the curb. He almost threw me out of the house at 16.

Also he earns the money, she doesnt.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Blackhole105 said:
Maybe that's just what your father wants her to think.
Hahaha....

Dad seems to be the winner here, reading between the lines. Married to a hot woman for 26 years, does not tolerate disrespect, and "not an AFC", in your own words.
 

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PapiChulo said:
Also he earns the money, she doesnt.
This pretty much solves the whole equation. Whoever has the more attractive qualities has control of the relationship, and the one with the less attractive qualities usually fears they'll be dumped. The one with the more attractive qualities can dump their partner at the drop of a dime.

Women are like computers/iphones/ipods/cars/etc.; You get a good one then a better model comes along.

Case closed.
 

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nismo-4 said:
This pretty much solves the whole equation. Whoever has the more attractive qualities has control of the relationship, and the one with the less attractive qualities usually fears they'll be dumped. The one with the more attractive qualities can dump their partner at the drop of a dime.

Women are like computers/iphones/ipods/cars/etc.; You get a good one then a better model comes along.

Case closed.
Nope the one that makes the money has the control in the relationship IMO.
 
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