"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mr. Cardio

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Okay here is a common problem mostly experienced by AFCs, however, in my case, its not the same kind of fear, but I do believe its fear related. I have grown up, and I know that and people around me have commented on it, what I mean is, is that I give off more man vibes and very masculine male vibes than ever before. For the past week, I have gone out to the club and been around a lot of women that were giving signs and clues and everything that they were clearly interested in me and wanted me to approach them. I believe that I have came a long way since coming to this site, because before, I would approach, approach, approach, but I was not attractive at all. Today, I am attractive, and women have even commented me on it, but, I will not go out of my way to say hello, say boo, say any damn thing to women any more. My friends are kind of AFCs in their own right, but they at least know some women and go to the clubs and have fun, even though the beautiful women are standing off the sidelines staring at me the whole time while my boys are just on the dancefloor dancing in their little circle. I have no idea why I will not meet and approach women anymore. I don’t know if its ego, I don’t know what it is. Before I really became attractive, I would approach all day at least. Now, I wont do shyt. I am frustrated at myself, its like knowing you have a million dollars in your bank account and not going to draw money. What is my problem? Why wont I go approach? When I think about it, I don’t know if I think I am scared that she will reject me, or maybe I am, but, I don’t know but I can clearly see and all my boys can see the signals and even they are askin me why the hell I am not making a move. What the hell is wrong with me? Am I too damn attractive for my own azz?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Before I really became attractive,

Ego thing? LOL, man I wonder...


Either you think your $hit doesn't stink and you want THEM to make the move, or maybe that huge ego of yours couldn't handle the rejection (if that were to happen), after coming such a long way.
 
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You have no confidence.

Plain and simple

You are no different then any other guy in this generation who is afraid to talk to women.

I don’t care if they say you are hot it still doesn’t clear the fact that you have NO confidence.

And that you are stressing over it.

Look at your buddies.

They go there to have what? FUN!!

They are there regardless if they get numbers or not.

They are on the dance floor having fun not giving a care in the world especially over some hot women standing at the bar.

Maybe the girls that are staring at you are wondering why you aren’t out there havin fun?

Stop trying to send out manly vibes, stop with trying to have the most testosterone in the room, stop with THINKING.

Start going back to male basics and just let go.

Cardio I’m telling your tripin.

You are tripin over the little stuff and over analyzing everything.

You are so wrapped up in DJ ethics that you forgot about the basics and just having FUN.

Lose the care, have fun, learn to be happy with out a women, and you will be successful.
 

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Deejay, you absolutely right brother, but my man I dont know what my problem is.

Its not like I am analyzing stuff though, I mean, I have just naturally became this manly figure, it just started happening like two or three weeks ago, I feel different, think different, etc, etc.

I dont know why I wont approach, I dont know why I dont have confidence to do it. Its like before, I had this fire in me, that I wanted to have fun and take everybody with me. Now, its like, I have grown up and I am more laid back but I know that I am defiantly more sexy, seductive, and attractive than I used to be. But for some damn reason, I will not meet anybody...if I can get over this hump, dude, I will be getting so much pvssy my man because all these girls are on my dyck right now. Why cant I just approach anymore? Am I too cool?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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