Real reason for monkeybranching

[jhonny9546]

For those who are single, and have their finances in order, such as their job and their social circle, it's not easy to understand how monkeybranching really works.

Consider not just women, but men as well.

Both of them, if they are in a romantic relationship but their relationship isn't working out, rather than separating, will begin to "test" the waters, remaining in their current relationship. This is why many men and women try dating other people before truly breaking up for good.

There are things like loneliness, housing, work, social circle, and families that can't be fixed overnight.
This is why many people stay in relationships, but look for someone else.
This is why after 30, relationships aren't born like they used to, but are more like "a friendship that gradually becomes a romantic relationship."

This is why many people report that healthy relationships, if you're not lucky to met a good partner when you're young, will come about when you meet "your best friend", be it a co-worker or someone else.

So, always remember that if you're over 30, there will obviously be people who show interest in you, but that doesn't necessarily mean they want to "cheat" or do it just for fun (although you'll find many of them). If you see them as genuine, it's precisely because monkeybranching is the most natural process for them to move on to a new relationship.

 

[The Duke]

People that get into another relationship before they are out of their current one
do so out of weakness. Totally selfish. They are never open about it.

Monkey branching definitely isn't what healthy/strong minded people do. I really don't think it's common or that natural.

 

[Westminster]

It's very commonplace, especially among women.

 

[SW15]

People that get into another relationship before they are out of their current one
do so out of weakness. Totally selfish. They are never open about it.

Monkey branching definitely isn't what healthy/strong minded people do. I really don't think it's common or that natural.

A good portion of marriages fall apart long before the divorce filing. There are times where marriages continue but the people in them have already checked out. This period can be 1+ years before the divorce. There are obligations like kids and mortgages that often keep these dead relationships together longer. During this period when the marriage is unofficially dead, it is common for both men and women to explore other options.

Non-marital LTRs have a shorter period of being unofficially dead because there are fewer obligations keeping them together.

Another common practice is starting to date in the period between divorce filing and divorce finalization. Even if there wasn't an affair during the marriage, it is very common for people in the midst of divorces to start dating new people. Some people even file for divorce in part to start dating new people. The period between filing and finalization is often around 3-12 months. People want sex during that period, especially if the 1-2 years prior to divorce filing didn't include much sex.

People do keep seeing the affair partner from the previous relationship after the non-marital breakup or divorce is completed.

 

[BaronOfHair]

This is why many men and women try dating other people before truly breaking up for good

Yeah... Saying what we're REALLY thinking out loud("I'm not satisfied with whatever it is we're doing anymore, and I suspect you aren't either... Therefore I'm ending this, and wish you well")opens us up to "the risk" of the other person being upset/possibly having a conflict, therefore most choose to be INDIRECT, act out in ways that are passive aggressive

This acting out takes the form of everything from cheating to becoming highly critical of one's SO