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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

thedude4242

Master Don Juan

Jan 5, 2010

vlad your full of it. there are different degrees of these coniditions. these are not habits. someones doesnt understand this stuff unless they had it or lived with someone who has. go to a physc doctor and get this taken care of as quick as you can. there are some OCD that people have because they are pet peaves and then there are real OCD of people who have it affect their lives. I know people that have had this and they are pretty good now and live a normal life. YOU ARE NOT OF YOUR THOUGHTS, YOU ARE OF YOUR ACTIONS.

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.