"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Real BPD Story(Or Some Sort Of Fvcked Up)

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So, I was talking to this girl online. She told me that she was O.D.D.(Conduct Disorder) and had depression, and needed someone that could be forgiving / understanding of it.

I was in no way at all planning on sticking around through that. But she is a good lookin' girl so I was going to pump and dump.

Anyway. I text her yesterday. We have some light, NORMAL banter. I say something about giving her guitar lessons if she plays her cards right. She sends a stupid emoticon face. I don't respond. Then a little while later I get a text. "I don't even fvcking care anymore. I'm going to kill myself. Bye."

I just thought....WHAT THE FVCK!?!?...I shouldn't of sent anything but I was too tempted. I sent back "Love you. Bye." lol... Then she dives further downt he crazy hole. I get a "I'm already cutting how hard is it to go a little deeper. I bet my parents wouldn't even notice until I didn't get up for school."

Again, I shouldn't of responded but I did...I sent "WTF is your problem?" Then I get back this huge drama filled story. About her EX and her parents...blah blah blah.. She's the victim , no body loves her etc.

I just tell her to get a grip and quit acting like a victim and she's the only one that can change anything. Of course she just ignores me for the most part and keeps on w/ her drama.

She later tells me how everything is better because her parents came in her room and they "made peace." Her mom snuggled her and told her she doesn't hate her.

WOW....I really think this is BPD for sure. The need for constant reassurance. Even from your own parents, WTF?

Needless to say I stopped talking to this chick and it made me feel better about my own sanity.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Classic behavior, the suicide hoover. It's all about attention and getting you enmesshed see how you felt compelled to send her a text. The thing of it is 99% she's not going to kill herself. She's being overly dramatic for a response. The off 1% is that since you've established she's crazy tehre's always a small chance she will actually do it.
 
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I know bros. I'm not talking to this crazy a$$ broad. I almost really couldn't believe the crazy sh1t that she was spewing. Especially to some dude she's never met before.

The funny thing is I asked if she was BPD. She ignored it.

I more or less wanted to share this fvcked up story with people and show what an actual mentally derranged(probably BPD) person acts like.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jov, how old is this chick? Im guessing shes young because this behavior seems more common among really young folks (23 and under)
 
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Correct-a-mundo. 19 years old I think. Probably 20 soon.

I def wouldn't use this as an excuse for this crazy a$$ behavoir though.

But I have a feeling my EX GF was like this when she was younger too.(She was almost 21 when I was going out with her so I think she stabllized since then, still had latent issues but WAY more stable than this)
 
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Age isnt an excuse. But shes a melodramatic kid. A lot of people that age, man or woman, are very emotional and still finding out who they are.

This is usually why I advocate against dating that age group unless you are someone of that group as well, because they can be easily manipulated. Plus some of them, liek the one you have, can be very unstable.

Teens, especially boys, can be very unstable and unsure of themselves at times. (Yes more so than girls seeing as male suicide rights are quite high during those years compared to girls)

I know I was a weird ass wreck of a child from 17 to 22. And with my exes I had no sort of self esteem and overreacted like hell when we broke up.

I have def grown up over the past few years though.

This doesnt speak for all people in the young teenager to early 20s age group. But it explains a good portion of them.
 
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