"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ready to Break Her Heart

NSUballer

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I think its obvious to both me and my GF that we dont belong together. We had our good times and bad. Shes hurt me bad once and I was never the same. I really care for her and would do anything for her. The only thing I wont do is be unhappy just to stay with her. I know ill miss her being around but its for the best.

Im in it to win it. For me winning is finding the girl I want to marry. I wont settle for anyone. I know what kind of person I am and what i have to offer.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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KontrollerX

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She hurt you bad?

She cheat on you or use something you told her in confidence against you during a fight?

Anyway do what you have to do man.

Seems you have thought this out fully and are committed to a course of action.
 

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we started dating 12/31 last year. we knew each other for about 2 years before. at the end of february she breaks up with me. for about a week she still sleeps with me calls me etc. one night all of a sudden i go see her at work and Im like a window pane. no convo. shes talkin to this other guy. the same night she leaves the bar with that guy.
 

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You're pretty emotionally fragile...aka EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO THIS CHICK, WHICH IS MAKING YOU A PILE OF BLUBBERING SH1T.

Tough luck man...you may feel pain, but let this one go...you seem ready to do it.

If you want to hurt her emotionally, I honestly don't give a sh1t. Whatever you decide to do, do it fast...stop wasting time diddling back and forth.
 

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Dang Potbelly, you know that emotional attachments aren't BAD right? Would you marry a chick that you don't have any emotional attachments to, if you would even marry a chick at all? It's only stupid to have an emotional attachment to a girl who's not your serious girlfriend/fiancee/wife. It's also stupid to not be emotionally attached to a serious girlfriend/fiancee/wife. Being a DJ isn't about being a sleazy womanizer.

Baller, I think you got the right idea. You gotta trust your gut on this one, and I'd suggest you take action as soon as possible.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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NSUballer

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Im not emotionally fragile. whatever that means. And what would a 19 year old know of the real world. I know where I stand and what I want.
 

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If you think long and hard and realized that she is not the one for you, then move on. The longer you wait, the more it will hurt the both of you. As long as you know what is your long term goals, you will make the right choice. Looks like you understand this from your post already.
 

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NSUballer said:
Im not emotionally fragile. whatever that means. And what would a 19 year old know of the real world. I know where I stand and what I want.
If you dont know what emotionally fragile means and doubt the perspectives of a 19 year old because youre older, then you probably dont know too much.
 

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The Deacon said:
Dang Potbelly, you know that emotional attachments aren't BAD right? Would you marry a chick that you don't have any emotional attachments to, if you would even marry a chick at all? It's only stupid to have an emotional attachment to a girl who's not your serious girlfriend/fiancee/wife.
He was emotionally attached to her while they were broken up just because she gave him sex.

Weak and stupid. I rest my case. Thanks for supporting my view.
 

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NSUballer said:
Im not emotionally fragile. whatever that means. And what would a 19 year old know of the real world. I know where I stand and what I want.
You're right. You clearly know more about the real world, which apparently has clear cut generalizations about a person's life experience based on their age alone.

Good you know what you want, now do something about it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Baller,
Go with your instinct. If its to work it out, do so at your own risk, and use ALOT of discretion. It can be seen by your (ex)g/f as a sign of weakness on your part, which will cause her to exploit it later.

If on the other hand, you're guy is telling you to run as fast as humanely possible, do so. Break off all contact with her if need be, just move on man and do what makes YOU happy. Don't worry about her or anyone else's feelings, just do it for you bro.
 

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Your fault for taking her back, you should of made it clear with her that if she breaks up with you, that your never going to take her back, and she would of thinked twice before breaking up, just to f*** some other guy.
 
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