"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Reading much on this forum is making me less rational and more negative

LittleBigOne

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Last few days it went completely wrong with me. Having this crush on this girl from work was driving me crazy. I was reading on this forum and searched for answers for not getting in the friendzone and how i should get her more attracted to me.
The more i did the more i got confused, i just couldn´t handle the information especially the contradicting opinions. Result the last two days: i felt awkward, frustrated and very negative around the girl. i even felt angry to her. I wasn´t rational anymore.
Now, i had to come back where i came from. I wrote down where my frustration was coming from and my behaviour the last two days (didn´t talk to her, didn´t know what to say, backing off).
Then i started to rationalize: she is having her bf, let him having the (boring) relationship AND her bad moods. Enjoy her company and enjoy myself without negative thoughts in my head. Just gonna ask her to go to the playground and have fun right there.
Now i feel much better and i have the idea it´s gonna be okay, whatever what happens, friendzone or not.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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coochieman

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So you weren't having fun together before ?

Just know about "ONE-ITIS" bro, Also know that its REAL.

Good you know about.... INTERACTING WITH A LADY WITHOUT TOO MUCH EXPECTATIONS. [This might be hard for you to pull off now, since you seem to have invested too much emotionally on this babe.]

Well, I'm also giving you the benefit of reasonable doubt that you are fully aware it takes as much or more balls to "walk away" without tantrums and no hard feelings if thing do not go as planned than to approach.

GoodLuck.
 

coochieman

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So you weren't having fun together before ?

Just know about "ONE-ITIS" bro, Also know that its REAL.

Good you know about.... INTERACTING WITH A LADY WITHOUT TOO MUCH EXPECTATIONS. [This might be hard for you to pull off now, since you seem to have invested too much emotionally on this babe.]

Well, I'm also giving you the benefit of reasonable doubt that you are fully aware it takes as much or more balls to "walk away" without tantrums and no hard feelings if thing do not go as planned than to approach.

GoodLuck.
 

Nicholas

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You are making yourself negative, you can rationalize as much as you want but you won't get rid of frustration and emotions that way. You are here like 6 years, why are you still struggling with basics like friendzone?

Putting pressure upon yourself will mess up your chances.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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