"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Reading faces?

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Is that a neccessary trait to have. I'd like to learn more.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you would like to learn it, then learn it. It is far better to learn something because you are interested, you will get the most out of it that way. The fact that you learn and become passionate about something, comes accross as an attractive quality.

In addition to using it for fun, it will be a great conversational tool, wether you use it to open, to extend conversation, or to set up a future meeting. Good luck.
 

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watch alot of movies with really good actors.I highly suggest the movie the Prestige.Watch how Hughe Whackman plays both charactors and how even the smallest attention detail and gesters makes a world of difference in changing the character. You can even watch movies with on mute and try to empathize with their emotion or guess what the scene is about..it'll help you read people better based soley on body language and using your senses rather then trying to guess logicaly,you actually get to see and get a sense for it. It works because it's using a different part of your brain or something like that.
 

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You mean "Reading faces", as in non-verbal language/body language? I was talking about Face Reading, the prop.

Yes, watch the news anchors with volume off, or better yet, watch soaps with the volume off. I like watching Novelas, the spanish soaps because there is all kinds of drama and emotions, and you can pick up a lot of info just from the non-verbal language.
 

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I think I will watch a dating show.

Watch the whole thing and see who she chooses.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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you want to see alot of this stuff going on? watch The Hills,Maui fever,Real world ,road rules. If you can't spot attraction or manipulation going on..consider yourself clueless! lol
 

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People touch their noses or faces when they are lying or hiding something. They also make a 'micro-expression' like a grimace. Learn to spot these 'tells' and you'll know when 90% of people are b*ll****ting you.

Someone reporting a real incident will tend to use more body language when recalling the situation, and look up to empty space when imagining/remembering. A liar will be more direct, and possibly hold eye contact too much to compensate for the idea that liars avoid EC.

Despite what's coming out of their mouths, involuntary nods or shakes of the head can be a good guide to what the person is really thinking.

Men perform much worse than women in recognising emotional states from non-verbal cues. Some people can't tell embarrassment from fear from arousal, which must be a real handicap in social situations. There's probably a site somewhere on the internet to test your skills but watching soap operas or the news with the sound down sounds a good idea too.
 
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