"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Reading body language...so fun!!

scorpio1138

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After doing a lot of reading on the subject, I'm finding it very fun to see happen.

I was just at the bank. This cute bank teller was flirting with me 2 weeks ago.
Today I saw her, she blushed immediately and was acting really nervous around me. I made a point to eye contact her and it was really fun. I'm asking her out next time I see her.

fun stuff!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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bookman

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the opposite is true when body language suggests that you are screwed and have no hope :p
 

scorpio1138

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Touche my friend!

Thats good though. Better to know when it ain't happening so you move on to another.

Before I knew what to look for I was blind in that and kept trying...
 

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You know what's better than reading body language? Assuming that all girls are attracted to you because you're awesome.

If I see an attractive, fun girl, I naturally assume that she's into me. I don't look for signs anymore. Now, don't get me wrong, there's no way ALL of these girls like me...but I still tell myself that they do.

That's the problem with guys on here trying to dig for signs of interest in a woman. It's a passive approach that leads to you WAITING on a girl to throw signs at you. That's why you're talking about asking her out the next time you see her instead of already having asked her out. You were waiting for signs instead of assuming that she's interested in you because you're a great catch.

Sometimes a girl might not notice you until you go up and say hi.
 

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I try to initiate IOI's by giving them lingering eye contact right from the beginning. If they don't reciprocate by holding it with me, blushing, smiling, winking, or whatever, I cut my losses 5 minutes later.

If a girl gives you any IOI like the ones you just mentioned, it's advisable to close her ASAP. One of the biggest drawbacks from learning to interact with women like a normal person (PU theory is just a remedial dating class) is realizing how many girls you could've closed no problem had you jumped on them once they threw IOI's that you realize in retrospect were pretty blatant.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Iceberg said:
You know what's better than reading body language? Assuming that all girls are attracted to you because you're awesome.

Par for the course. I already do that.

Seeing them nervous around me is what I'm talking about. Assuming that they are attractive cause I'm awesome isn't the same rush imo...
 

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I ONLY GO AFTER CHICKS UNLESS THEY GIVE IOIs.. it donesnt make sense to me to go up to a random woman who didnt evn look at me and try to talk to her.....if a chick wants you she'll look at you...

i mean..how the fvck else am i suppose to know if she wants me to approach her...and just because i think shes attractive doesnt mean that she'll find me attractive...each time i went up to a chick who didnt give signs i got rejected....
 
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