lazylawyer312
Don Juan
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That is the best description of an AFC I've seen so far.An AFC isn't 'kind-hearted' or 'affectionate' or 'generous' mind you, he is but a groveling, distasteful, supplicating, centipede-like little bootlicker who makes a woman's lip curl in disgust.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
hey i just wrote a thread on whiners in the tip section!!Originally posted by darthsidious
he's a whiner
Clearly, you missed the point.Originally posted by Jariel
That is the best description of an AFC I've seen so far.
AFCs and "nice guys" are just manipulative and deceitful cowards, pretending to be generous and kind, while wanting sex in return. No wonder women hate them so much.
The worst part is, they keep a tab on all their "kindness" and ass kissing and hold it over the women like a debt. And when they don't get what they want (sex), they get angry.
Just proves they're not so nice and selfless afterall.
Originally posted by darthsidious
while it's true that american society has taught women over here that it's okay to be a w hore, they have also taught men how to be into rapstar gay thugs. do you see any sites of women saying how awful they are? NO.
Originally posted by darthsidious
if he is so great, he should post pics of himself
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by darthsidious
he forget a thing about "nice guys" they think they KNOW WOMEN.
he's a whiner and just because he lives in japan and believes he is a cool dude because he's dating women from a different culture.
while it's true that american society has taught women over here that it's okay to be a w hore, they have also taught men how to be into rapstar gay thugs. do you see any sites of women saying how awful they are? NO.
the problem with this guy is that he is unwilling to accept american women so he puts them down conveniently because he lives in japan.
i bet he's one of those typical geeky looking white guys who couldn't get any from white women and glorifies asian women. i've seen so many asian women and white men relationships to prove my point.. it's always the geeky looking white guy with an asian woman who has been rejected by her own kind.
if he is so great, he should post pics of himself
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.