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[TheGreatMe]

Quick look at my situation

I've been seeing this girl for about 6 months, we've had a lot of fun, sex was great for both of us and everything was light and funny... except about one subject, she've been with a guy for 11 years and was single for 8 months before meeting me.

She was insecure, she was young when she met her ex and she told me that she would have liked to straighten up her life before having a boyfriend, didn't know what the wanted and bla bla bla.

I didn't really give a fk since I know what I'm worth and I told her that she had to make up her mind, I was in her life NOW and that's how things are.. But I knew that I shouldn't get too involved because of her uncertainties.
But I kept seeing her since she was doing most of the hard work.

5 days ago she told me again that she didn't know what she wanted and that we shouldn't see each other again, that she was too fktup for me so I left.
I didn't speak to her until tonight when she called me and she was crying, saying that she loved me (She never told that she loved me before) and that she regrets, she wants to be with me and so on... I told her that I was going to think about it and call her back soon.

Now, she was some kind of a **** buddy and we were hanging out, having fun but I really felt that we could go far together.

What's your advice?
I'm not sure that I should take her back since it may come up again and maybe she doesn't really love me but she just misses the good time we had together, the attention and affection..

I won't contact her in the following days, just to see how bad she wants me back, let her think and just think about it myself....

Thanks for your advices/sharing your past experiences/critiques.

Have a nice day!

 

[tafakna]

What's your advice?
I'm not sure that I should take her back since it may come up again and maybe she doesn't really love me but she just misses the good time we had together, the attention and affection..

I won't contact her in the following days, just to see how bad she wants me back, let her think and just think about it myself....

Good thinking. Let her do the chase first. Tell her that you like her (don't go further than that) that if she wants to make things work fine and you'll help, if not you will move on with your life.

It's very easy for girls to chase a pie in the sky, until they feel that there's a cost to it. This cost is losing you. So make it clear to her that she's free to decide whatever she wants, but that you'll not wait around like a puppy.

Establish the PRICE she will pay for taking her actions, and she'll reconsider.