"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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read NEWSWEEK March 5, 2007 - on "The Secret"

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interesting read.

realize fellow travelers that much of the advice we hear here comes from a looooooooooong line, a long history of self-help.

and there are nuggets of truth among the crap... a few baubles of pearls among the swine. but we must choose carefully, critically, with discernment.

because primarily, these things are devices meant to bring wealth to one primary beneficiary.... the author!

truly, it is odd that i keep going back to hollywood as the source of great profound wisdom but here it is again, all the more relevant - here from the princess bride:

"life is pain. those who tell you different are trying to sell you something."

delta
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Delta said:
"life is pain. those who tell you different are trying to sell you something."
Life is adventure, excitement, and enjoyable to me. There is pain involved, but if life were simply pain humans would have committed suicide long before any of us were born.
 

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Life is as good as you make it.

If you attitude is "life is pain" then you will be depressed and sad and just go kill yourself.

I ENJOY my life!
 

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Babnik said:
If you attitude is "life is pain" then you will be depressed and sad and just go kill yourself.
Isn't that the emo creed?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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