"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SpecialxOnexKana

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i need advice on sum things....
ok...theres this girl (my ex girlfriend), we were
together for 13 months...she recently broke up with
me..about a month & a half ago! well i love this gurl
so0o much....its like nuthing is rite without her!
so0o while we were together in tha end we hadda
problem...she slept with her ex boyfriend...lying to
me and saying she was out with one of her
friends..anywaze..after she did that, she called me up
cryng saying she made a mistake...so i believed her,
and cuz i love her so much, i said its ok babe(crying
inside), i still love you..we all make mistakes..so i
asked her to stop talking to him. so tha next day i go
over to her house, and were laying down together,
trying to go to sleep...but i couldnt cuz i was
thinking to much. so that day we got in a huge fight.
she started hitting me, and i just took all tha
hits...but i started to aggressivley shove her out of
my way. anywaze...we stopped talking 4 a day. then we
started talking again, and i thought we were still
together...next thang i find out is that she is now
dating a new guy(which i found out on tha computer),
and they are still seeing each other, and have been
since september 8,2005! so i have tryed expressing my
feelings to her, but she wont even talk to me...all
she talks about now is how much she hates me! but i'm
so deeply in love with her. its like everythang has
lost its taste, i dont even feel complete
anymore...its like before i met this gurl..i was doing
good...but rite when i met her it was like how can i
live without u...yaknoe? i wake up every morning
thinking to myself that she is waking up with tha
wrong man, but i still want her to find happiness even
if it is not with me....and i just dont knoe wat to do
anymore...i dont feel so good anymore...i dont knoe
wat to do!


Sincerley,

Sean
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What?
 

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The girl played you for a fool

The moment you said "Its ok" after she cheated, you handed all the power over to her as well as the 'Licence to cheat' card

And she tried hitting YOU as well?

Cut all contact and never speak to her again

When you feel like calling her, remember all the misery she put you through and the FACT she will put you through the same **** if you get back with her

Trust me, I went through a similer scenario a few years back in my AFC days, cheating ex, allowed her bad behavior, hitting me etc... its just not worth it, for your mind's sake
 

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Try asking yourself what is it that you love about this girl. Then analyse your answers and see whether it makes sense or check and see if you're thinking straight. In the process of doing that, mix some personal activities in there. Don't contact her and don't see her.

You're lost at this point in time and you have to find your way out. Confront it, but don't confront her. You could confront her but only if you want to get into a huge argument with her in order for you to 'hate' her enough to get over her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Blackdragon5095

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Wow wow wow. Sounds very heart breaking...
Welcome to Don Juan Fourms. I see that you are new and if you stick around you can learn alot.
My friend I used to be in those same shoes. You say to yourself " I can't lose her " My friend you sound down in the dumps. Break ups aren't allways easy.

First you need to move on. Maybe you 2 can be friends but move on. Pull yourself together dawg and wake up. You have a life to live and a world you haven't fully seen yet.

Second. Lets get down to business. This girl playing games man. Here you are trying to be a great guy for her and she seeing another man and hitting on you even lieing to you. Think about that I'm gonna say it again. "Here you are trying to be a great guy for her and she seeing another man and hitting on you even lieing to you." Now would you want her as your wife for your kids ??

You need to drop this chick and realize you can be happy without her. I bet your confuse about why she not talking to you now. Thats because she is busted. In her mind she thinking ( oh god I'm busted what game do I have now to play on him ). To alot of women it's all about her. These girls who are selfish and who care about them and what they get are girls you don't want has your wife. You need to get out of the dumps and quit this poor me and see the light that their are other women who will treat you much better.

You sound like AFC so you have much much to learn. To tell you the truth if you called her about seeing another guy she will be like this.

You: why you cheat on me ??
Her: I didn't want to hurt you ( She knows excatly why she cheated on you and isn't really gonna tell you. She tells you what she told other men. In real life she is a crazy girl, she hide that the day you met her so she could get a guy and if a guy saw her real color they would run for the hills)
You: how long was you gonna hide this from me ??
Her: I don't know ( The real answer is for as long as she wants. Maybe when you 2 are married with kids she still seeing other men. She know she has problems but dosen't want to fix herself.)
You: Do you love him ??
Her: I love him and you ( Lets stop here. 1. If she really loved you she wouldn't have been cheating and won't have broke up with you. When a girl breaks up with you then you should move on because it means she not attarcted to you the way she used to be. 2. She loves this other guy more, So you think to yourself why hang around me if she likes him more ?? because she selfish. When the other guy is busy or gone she hangs around you to waste time.

I hope this forum and my exmaple helped you out. Good luck
 

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aiit....thanx everybody 4 all da advice & help...so0o yall think dat i needa move on...wat if i dont wanna tho! wat if she was tha only person to eva make me feel complete...iono peeps...get bac at me...buh thanx 4 everythang!
 

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Originally posted by SpecialxOnexKana
aiit....thanx everybody 4 all da advice & help...so0o yall think dat i needa move on...wat if i dont wanna tho! wat if she was tha only person to eva make me feel complete...iono peeps...get bac at me...buh thanx 4 everythang!
Look at it this way. You do not want to let this girl go. She clearly does not like you. It's kinda like a creepy weirdo who is so in 'love' with, let's say, Britney Spears. Even though she's married already and she clearly doesn't want to be with you, you still want her badly. Now, don't you think you're setting yourself up for a world of pain and utter lameness if you continue to hold on to her?
 

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yeAa...i knoe im settin myself up..buh i knoe deep down she love me....iss jess like her new b/f is jess a rebound...iono...i think wat chu sayin is a good idea, buh iss jess so0o hard man...im also attatched 2 her family and stuff...and wheneva i talk to her moms, she always give me more hope and everythang...iono...im crazy..haha...iss jess like before i met her my life was great...buh after i knew iss like i cant live without her..yaknoe!? and also...every morning i wake up and feelt that shes wakin up with tha wrong man...buh i still want her to find happiness even if it aint with me...iono...ahh...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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please stop chatting with a bunch of three dot periods connecting every word.
 

nishbuk

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Dude...go read the bible. http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/


She does not love you. she does not want to be with you. She disrespected you, and you acted like a wuss and acepted it. You guys are done. You need stop taking this **** from her, and cut her off...no actually, first you need to go and read the bible. GO READ THE BIBLE.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
 
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