"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Reacts to spontaneous Invite over plans

geralt

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So a girl I had had sex with a couple times turned down my suggestion of me coming over(can't remember her reason, but said "defs another time though" which I take as her just trying to be nice), I asked her pretty late at night so it definitely came off as a booty call. We communicate mainly through snapchat, which is kinda ****ty but shes younger and that's what they use mostly. Her snap stories tell me shes a party girl. I ignored for a week then we started exchanging the odd snap. I finished work early one day and it was hot as hell. I decided to sent her an invite to come to this cool river with me and she responded straight away, I picked her up- had a swim, kissed, escalated etc- but only ended up finger banging her on the shore lol- she said i was silly for not bringing a condom. I drove her her back home, she she invited me in and did the deed. Since then communication has been pretty random- should I only contact her for meeting up? I was only looking for a ****buddy, is it possible shes after something else? Is the late night message too common? too easy to turn down? is it better to make plans in advance? I'm sensing low interest. She told me she's never the one to initiate.

Cheers for any thoughts, I have been going on other dates and going nightclubbing to varied results lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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