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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Important:
You must be like a SNIPER and calibrate when to approach, don’t approach in stupid situations with direct!
When to use direct: when she is talking to her friends, sitting, standing, normal energy level
When NOT to use direct: when she is in hurry or running to toilet or dancing or in some way of turbo high energy, etc…
You must have the same energy level or +1

This is field tested in clubs and bars on HOT girls between 16 and 30 (btw I’m 20).
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Example of direct opener:
1. She is facing you
Look at her face-down to feet-again to face, slowly. If she sees that she will smile.
You Smile
And say…
2. She is not facing you
Put your hand on her shoulder and gently turn her around so that you face her
You Smile
And say…

GUY: I like you (or: you are cute)… (Pause 2-3seconds)…I want to get to know you

After that she will react:
1. GIRL: I’m x (her name)
And she starts asking you questions: what’s your name, where are you from…She rapports you
Or
2. GIRL: I’m x (her name)
And nothing more, she is silent, not opened
Or
3. GIRL: I have a boyfriend
Or
4. GIRL: no thanks or I don’t like you or go away, or she turns back…etc
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This is like 4 levels of attraction, in first you have full attraction in fourth she don’t want to talk to you, so you must adapt your game based on her first reaction
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I don't know...it's a bit corny if you ask me, and it lays your intentions out immediately....so there's no mystery.

It'd be like going up to a girl and saying "I want you to be my girlfriend" if you ask me.

Also, not sure if touching someone before they've even looked at you is a great idea...some people are a little insecure and have to WARM UP to touching strangers. Go around tapping people on the shoulder and see how far it gets you. It just sets you off to a bad start.

Nice try and it could work but...not the best opener.
 
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Originally posted by Hunchback
I don't know...it's a bit corny if you ask me, and it lays your intentions out immediately....so there's no mystery.

It'd be like going up to a girl and saying "I want you to be my girlfriend" if you ask me.

Also, not sure if touching someone before they've even looked at you is a great idea...some people are a little insecure and have to WARM UP to touching strangers. Go around tapping people on the shoulder and see how far it gets you. It just sets you off to a bad start.

Nice try and it could work but...not the best opener.
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Maybe the original poster didn't explain it well, but your response indicates that you know very little to nothing about direct game, and how and why it works.

No offense, as you are probably basing your opinion on very little info provided by the original poster.
 
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The direct opener " I like you (or you're cute)..I want to get to know you." was discussed in depth on ASF. I don't see the sense in using this opener really. You validate your target and offer no challenge or mystery. So she has little incentive to continue conversing with you and likely wil just blow you out. If this opener works on a girl than probably any other opener would've worked better anyway. Plus it's very hard to transition from this opener...If simple direct shyt like that worked there wouldn't even be a need for this site.
 
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1) "Direct" is so much more than just an opener.

2) Many of the guys on asf are either pitching their workshops or are guys caught up in the Indirect, fake disinterest, palm-reading BS that they can't or don't have the balls to be direct.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's not that I don't understand direct game exactly...it's just never worked for me.

I agree with you to some extent. If you have every confidence in yourself then there's no reason why you can't go up to a girl and tell her you want to get to know her, if you have the INNER GAME to back it up.

Which is why it's probably never worked for me, because I've felt akward as hell when I've used this type of line...so my confidence was shot.

Using this solely as a one-liner is never gonna get you laid.

I don't want to get into a direct vs indirect battle. Whatever works for you...and both do.
 
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I'm pretty sure you would get much further with just introducing yourself instead of using some lame lines and body movements to try and lure her in.
 
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Originally posted by Hunchback
It's not that I don't understand direct game exactly...it's just never worked for me.

I agree with you to some extent. If you have every confidence in yourself then there's no reason why you can't go up to a girl and tell her you want to get to know her, if you have the INNER GAME to back it up.

Which is why it's probably never worked for me, because I've felt akward as hell when I've used this type of line...so my confidence was shot.

Using this solely as a one-liner is never gonna get you laid.

I don't want to get into a direct vs indirect battle. Whatever works for you...and both do.
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Well, if you don't have the confidence and a strong frame, neither direct or indirect is going to work well for you.
 
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