"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ummm... a slight dilema. There's this chick who DESPITE ME TRYING MY HARDEST TO PREVENT, I have developed oneitis for (there's one other chick,but anywho...). She looked like she was kinda into me when she wasnt even in my list of girls to check. She was pretty excited when i asked her to be my valentine and things were going good...BUT know since ive made it pretty clear im attracted to her for an actual realationship, she's kinda getting distant from me. I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend last Friday. Tonight she said she's still thinking. Oh, and other guys around me are kinda out DJing me so to speak...not really...but their kinda getting more attention, especially this one who is kinda annoyingly c0ckblocking me, oh and he has a girlfriend who my girl has met. Me and him actually used to compete for this girl im after now. Anyway, i was thinking of kinda cuttin her off for a bit to see if that'd get interest going again. What do u guys suggest?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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im in almost the exact situation, im curious about the answer myself. i havent talked to the girl in a week and it doesnt look like i will see her until next weekend, i wonder if cutting her off that long is a good idea.
 
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my opinion is that if it takes her a week to decide, you guys probably wont have that great a relationship anyways

I'd just try to stay as active with other girls and focus on hobbies, academics, sports etc, even if its just for the sake of getting your mind off her.

It wouldnt be cutting her off, but you'd be showing her that shes not the most important thing in your life. She shouldnt be.

I seem to develop oneitis myself whenever I'm not doing much game for awile. You just gotta remember to keep thinking about this girl as just a person, not a crazy queen-godess. Thats the hardest part.
 
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