so i just moved back to my hometown, i have been living away for some time. anyway, i have been just talking with my old girlfriend of ten years ago, the one i lost my virginity with. we will email each other or talk to each other every once in a while. anyway, im going out with her this week. she is cool and very attractive, and we are both kinda hesitant about hooking back up, as seeing that both of us don't want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, but she is a catch. basically, i want to have sex with her, but this is going to be a challenge. how do i pull it off? any advice?
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Why did you break up in the first place? Dont let nostalgia seduce you back into a relationship that ended for a good reason.strey said:
There are sometimes exceptions to the rule, but myself and most of the guys in the MM forum will say your time is always better spent generating new options than getting back with an old flame.
Colossus said:
10 years ago means he was a 16 year old child. I don't think that counts for anything as I don't view that as a "girlfriend", but more as a high school crush (even if they were "boyfriend" and "girlfriend".)
If they were adults when they were together, then I would agree 100% with your post. I think this might be an exception to the rule and I'm amazed he is even creating a thread about this.
of course i have other options, but she is actually the best option. yes, it was a high school romance, but she was also very good, then. i basically dont give a ****, but for me, it would be the challenge of igniting a relationship ten years removed. and i know its probably not worth it, but **** it, i dont careLatinoman said:
Dude...10 years ago in your case you were CHILDREN. Meaning that having a relationship now is like having a NEW one as now both of you are ADULTS and complete different individuals.
You are talking like that relationship (if we can call it that) is the equivalent of a relationship between adults or young adults.
I am wondering what is your maturity level. And how much you have grow in the last 10 years.
You are talking like that relationship (if we can call it that) is the equivalent of a relationship between adults or young adults.
I am wondering what is your maturity level. And how much you have grow in the last 10 years.
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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
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i know, i know. and yes we are very different now and matured greatly. it would be a new relationship with an old twist if you know what im saying. i would really like to try, but at the same time im quite hesitant. so i think im going to just let it beLatinoman said:
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This is why you wont hook up with her again. When she's the PRIZE she owns the frame. You'll only frustrate yourself until you are the catch.strey said:
That said, why are you going back to a girlfriend you had when you were 16? My guess is that she's a 'catch', because you have no other real options and she seems comfortable and familiar. Date other women. Get out and sarge.