"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Purefilth said:
I agree, yes. To play the devil's advocate, though, I would imagine some guys fudge the numbers when they know it is otherwise. But I don't believe it happens all that often, or on a significant basis, because it is inherently rooted in opinion on the small scales.

Beauty is inherently objective on the larger scale, but subjective on the small scale and in the small differentials due to the minute personal preferences each man has.

Edit: Too many big words, finals studies are getting to me. Even now, I'm seeing my own behavior; competing and showing off with word-play, just the same as another guy may post that he landed a 9. It's a subconscious action taken, and not necessarily consciously thought about.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Plutoman said:
I agree, yes. To play the devil's advocate, though, I would imagine some guys fudge the numbers when they know it is otherwise. But I don't believe it happens all that often, or on a significant basis, because it is inherently rooted in opinion on the small scales.

Beauty is inherently objective on the larger scale, but subjective on the small scale and in the small differentials due to the minute personal preferences each man has.
which is stupid beucse at the end of the day the only person you are lying to is yourself.

in other words, if you truely think you are a 6 but say you are a 8 and you say you have confidence and high self esteem and you don't but you still cant' get girls, beucase you are lying to yourself first and foremost you aren't going to get to the root of the problem at hand.
 

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backbreaker said:
which is stupid beucse at the end of the day the only person you are lying to is yourself.
Many, many people would rather believe lies than face the truth. ;)

I agree, most definitely. Lying to yourself is the quickest way to lose. However, for the sake of reference, I was considering numbers related more so to women than men; I don't think men fudge their own numbers about themselves often at all.
 
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